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| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:59pm |
When Bobby is being bad and we are trying to reprimand him he jsut laughs.
| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:59pm |
When Bobby is being bad and we are trying to reprimand him he jsut laughs.
Sorry I'm no help because we have the exact same problem over here.I'm dying to hear some of the suggestions.
Teresa
Sylvia is the EXACT same way. She thinks that cause/effect is hilarious, and it doesn't matter what the effect is... So sometimes she'll do things just to see the effect, and if the effect is getting me all angry, well, that's even MORE hilarious to her!
Honestly I've found that the best way to handle this is to choose a consequence and then show no emotion whatsoever when giving the consequence. So, for example, if she pushes her brother she has to sit strapped in the booster seat for 4 minutes in the kitchen. If, when putting her in the booster, I speak sternly to her or even have an angry look on my face, she laughs and laughs and laughs. But if I just pick her up and say, with no emotion at all, "You pushed Sebastian, so you need to sit in your chair," strap her in, set the timer, and leave the room, it seems to work better. She still doesn't act all that upset by the consequence, but she doesn't laugh, and she seems calmed down by the time she gets down. I think that she gets some kind of weird payoff by making me show strong emotion, so if I rob her of that payoff, it makes it not worth her while to do the bad action -- does that make any sense at all?
In terms of laughing while a sibling is being punished, we haven't found a way to stop that at our house. She does think it's really funny whenever I'm disciplining Sebastian. I can't even tell the cat to get down off the table without Sylvia cracking up and following the cat around screaming, "Bad cat! BAD CAT!!!" I really just ignore her in those situations, and if I'm disciplining Sebastian I try to bring him into a room where Sylvia can't follow, so that he's not confused by her reaction. I think that's just a battle I'm choosing not to fight right now, you know?
I wish I could be of more help! If anyone else has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them!
Jennifer