Behaviors/attitudes.....

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Behaviors/attitudes.....
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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 9:59pm
I have read a lot about behaviors on here and I see these in my DS some what, such as the tics swaying one leg back and forth for example. He also seems to do the shock thing with putting indentions on himself with like pop bottle lids and the like but doesn't harm himslef but he wants me to see it after he has done it. Does your children make up inventions with food? My DS will make strange things and some he likes to eat and others he realizes that it was not such a good idea LOL.

Now how about attitudes? Does your children seem to rant on about something and difficult to let it go? My DS is a low key teen however when he feels he or someone he likes/loves has been wronged, he gets very upset and thinks revenge is the way to go. I have explained to him what revenge does and he doesn't follow through with his thoughts. For example we are a racing family and last year one of our friends (my DS thinks a lot of this person) was black flaged for leading 2 laps in a row (in the 4-cylinder class this is a no-no) anyway DS becomes upset and threatens to climb the flag stand and punch the flagman. Of course he didn't however he still brings it up and still becomes irritated. And last night someone verbally abused me and my DS was ready to go "tell her off" and my DH and I explained that he would be lowering himself to her standards and I modeled the behavior I expected from my children. Anyway I was just wondering if this was normal behavior.

BTW DH and I took the online test also and I scored a 19 and DH scored 27.

Thanks for reading,

Linda

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 8:49am
Linda -- Christopher (10, AS) likes to make "concoctions" with drinks--either pop mixed with fruit juice, or several kinds of juice mixed together. Sometimes, it's really good, other times not. But he loves to experiment that way.

I know what you mean, too, about the revenge thing. Apparently, at school Friday, Chris left his milk carton and napkin at a table, while he took his tray over to the condiment stand to get some ketchup. While he was gone, a lunch aide cleared his milk and napkin and threw them away (I guess she thought someone had left them and was gone from lunch already.) Chris, of course, didn't know how to ask for another milk, but he was upset with the lunch aide for throwing away part of his lunch. "I want to hurt that lunch aide, mom, but I know I can't," he told me.

Poor kid. Today, he asked to take a juice pouch so he wouldn't have to deal with milk at all.

Elizabeth

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 10:54am
Oh...Poor Christopher...it was good to think ahead though and take a juice. Jimmy has PDD-NOS and I know in our schools there is very little education but I of course am bringing it to light. I was SO upset when I heard a teacher had called him an "outcast" and "strange". This was before we had our diagnosis and he was diagnosed with ADHD but that diagnosis did not fit the behaviors and actions. Jimmy is still in public school with speech therapy and in a self contained classroom except for his elective classes. My DH and I wonder why he is unable to let things go and seem to obsess about certain things. How do all of you handle this?

Thanks Elizabeth for your input. It was helpful.

Also I read about SSI. My DH still wants us to sign Jimmy up for this however I am wondering if doing so will hinder him in the future job wise. I know people who CAN work however find it easier to collect SSI with the defeatest attitude that they CAN'T work. You know what I mean. For example I know truck drivers that have a second to fourth grade reading level however they work and do well....then on the other hand I know of a person who is sitting back collecting SSI because she says she is illiterate and can't read beyond fifth grade level. Please give me your thoughts on this. He is 15 now and wants to find a job but around here most people won't higher until they are 16. Am I illiterate on SSI????

Thanks for your input,

Linda

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