a bit of a "relief"
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a bit of a "relief"
| Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:10pm |
I was here awhile ago asking about whether or not I should tell my 15 year old dd that she'd been given a diagnosis of Asperger's (actually she's been given a diagnosis of PNN/NOS as well). Dh didn't think we should, and since she's currently away at boarding school I haven't said anything to her about the diagnosis. Well, she's home for Christmas vacation and she saw the book on Asperger's that I had by my bed. She asked about it and I explained that a friend of mine had recommended it and I told her about hte diagnosis. I mean heck, she knows she went through all kinds of testing. I told her the diagnosis wasn't going to change anything that we were doing currently, it just helped explain a lot of things to me. She asked if she could look at the book. As she was looking through the book she was making comments like "This is me". She seems fine with the diagnosis and I think it might be a relief to her to be able to put a name to it and to know that it's not her "fault".

That is great she took it well. Hopefully it will help her understand herself a bit better and grow from it. There have been a few teens recently that have shown up on the asperger board I moderate in similar situations and they have said similar. That they were relieved when they found out.
Renee
I was thinking of you recently and wondering what happened and how it went. I am very glad you told her. As someone who just received a diagnosis myself (ADD), I know that it is helpful to know the reason why some things are very difficult for me, when others have no trouble at all. It's not because I'm stupid or lazy. It's because my brain is a bit different.
It helps to know.
You may want to look into a support group for her, either on line or in real life. That may help her to adjust, because although it does help to know, it is a bit of a land...
-Paula
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