bought a book for DH...

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bought a book for DH...
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 7:56am

"10 things every child with autism want you to know"

It seemed pretty slim and concise, and laid out in 10 chapter. It covers things like concrete thinking. I though he might actually *read* this one.

I'll let you know if he does, and what he thinks.

-Paula

-Paula

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 9:40am

OMG, do you have a problem getting your dh to read books too? I swear I can't get my dh to read anyting for me. It drives me nuts because I feel like I am the sole information source and I verbally relay the info I read. However, I feel like I can't tell him everything I read and I feel like he misses so much by not reading books on his son's condition.

I always tell my mom that if I didn't know better, I would think my dh is illiterate.

Please let me know how the book works out!

Melissa

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:53am
I bought that book for many of my family members...
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 3:38pm

Kind of tough, isn't it, being maybe the only one doing research?

That sounds like an interesting book....I would like more people in my family to know more about autism. If the book is really short, that might be helpful as far as getting them to read it.

I don't have a dx yet, but I am already imagining that it won't be easy for some members of my family and my son's family on his Dad's side to accept it. Already my son's Dad is leaving all the work on handling the paperwork, Dr.'s appointments and research to me - he didn't even come to the last IEP meeting. He cares about his son, but he's not willing to do much when it comes to raising our child. I feel a bit sad about it - and sometimes so very alone and tired!

I recently decided that if my son's Dad and his Dad's relatives want to know more, they can do their own research. I used to worry a lot about what would happen when my son visits relatives as they may not understand why my son behaves as he does, but they have been cutting down on their communication with me because xh is actively driving a wedge into the middle of things 'so that there will be room for my gf'. Ugh. Add to that, ex doesn't seem to want to know more about any of it - so he won't be passing any info on to his family..... I just don't know what to do. I don't want things to be hard for my ds - but if they all don't want to hear from me....there's not much I can do.

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:44pm

I'm so impressed with you Paula, and with others on the board too, for buying books for other people.

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 12:34am

All,

thanks for the resposes. My DH is a great dad and very supportive of our kids and their issues. He is a member of ASA and a bunch of local Autism organizations. He has sat long hours making Autism awareness ribbons to pass out to co-workers etc.

He just isn't a big reader. Especially as he has someone on-hand who is borderline obsessed with the topic (i.e. yours truly), who he can just ask questions of anytime.

Ya know, I just had a thought: If I could get any of Autism books on tape, he would probably "read" them voraciously! He has a long commute and he listens to a lot of books in the car.

Hmmmm...

-Paula

-Paula

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 11:07am
I bought this book and what i do is i let people read and then give it back....if someone else has questions etc.. then i let them read it too...i have been pretty blessed though in that i have a couple teachers of special needs/special ed family members who more often then not come to my defense if someone says anything so now if DD does something, usually they will ask if its autism related or toddler related! Usually a combination of the 2!!!!!
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 3:14pm

A friend of mine recently suggested that I got my dh some books on CD to listen to. I think I may do that.

My dh, like yours, is a great dad and very invloved our children's lives but I can't get him to sit down a read a book to save my life.