Bug Phobias

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Bug Phobias
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:29pm
OK, Mike is well on his way to years of therapy. This kid has had problems with bugs forever. Every spring it is the same as soon as he starts seeing them. Refuses to go outside, walking around vigilantly looking for bugs of all sorts. Has panick attacks when he sees them. Can't sleep if he thinks a fly is in his room. Last summer he walked around the house with a fly swatter all the time.

This year is the worst by far. At horsebackriding he was climbing in my lap with his feet up looking at all the red ants and repeating over and over. If I don't bother them they won't hurt me right mom. Those really are red ants right mom. Then he jumped to the ramp they use to put the kids on the horses and wouldn't come back down until we left.

Tonight he saw a beetle near my car when we were getting in and he ran screaming into the street freaking out. Thank Goodness there were no cars.

Then the worst is school. He told me the other day that there were bees at his school so he wanted to go to a new school. Come to find out, Mike has been freaking out there to, so this little jerk kept telling Mike he had bees in his hair to make him scream and cry. Mike keeps thinking this kid is his friend. This kid is a little creep and has been all year. Needless to say, I talked to the teacher about it. I have had to talk to her more than once about this kids.

I hope the anxiety meds help, but I think I need to get this kid some counseling.

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In reply to: rbear4
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 8:05am
Oh wow! That sounds like Jade. She is terrified of most bugs. Especially yellow jackets (okay, who can blame her on that one). When we lived in Oceanside we used to go down to the harbor all the time. She would freak out in ear splitting ways if she so much as saw a water skimmer.

She's a lot better now. She's still scared of them but she doesn't start scailing the walls bare handed anymore when she sees something harmless (like a ladybug). We tried her on meds for a while, but they really didn't help. What did work was time and knowledge. As she got older she got better control over her reactions. And the twice-annual 'bug study' we do in school helps too. The more she learns about them the better things are for her. She still tries to run in 6 different directions at once if she sees a yellow jacket (with all that fluffy blonde hair I think they think she's a flower) but she doesn't try to call County Pest Control every time she sees a Daddy Longlegs anymore.

On the subject of the little instigator at Mike's school..... well, if talking to th teacher isn't working then maybe it's time to place a call directly to his parents? Just a thought. Of course, I can already hear what the teacher is thinking and will eventually say "He's going to have to learn how to deal with this kind of thing someday....yada yada yada) Ya know, someday I really would like to take a couple of these people and make them live in my house for 30 days. Not all at once mind you, one at a time. That way they can know first hand what it feels like to be the one who is different because they will be the only NT. Sigh.

Peace Honey,

Candes

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Candes  
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In reply to: rbear4
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 9:05am
SOunds like you described Tim to a "T".

I think he's gotten better recently. He freaks out like you said.

Even jumping out of the car yelling. Refusing to sleep in his

room because of a Fly, moth, anything. Sometimes we have to

pretend that we killed it so he would relax. I used to try to

ease him a little bit by holding a bug and showing him how

much bigger Tim is than the bug and that he could.....(as I drop the

bug to the ground.....STOMP!) Squish it!...and he

would laugh a little bit but not be very eased by it. He's got this

little friend (girl) who loves bugs, so I think that may be what's

helped him this last school year.
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In reply to: rbear4
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 12:07pm
LOL. I was cracking up at both posts because I totally see Mike in that. IF he had a pest control number he would be calling for every Daddy longleggs. You should have seen him the time a termite guy came. We had a quick infestation of subterranean termites a couple months back while he was at school fortunately, but seeing the bug guy here totally set him off for days. Of course I lied and said the guy killed all the bugs. We were just getting an estimate.

They are doing a bug thing in school right now. He actually touched a beetle in his terrarium last night. I was impressed! He is also getting a bunch of books from teh library on bugs. Hasn't seemed to help yet but I hope soon.

As for the teacher, this one is one of the few that actually seems to understand. She was not happy, but this kid has been a problem before. I beleive she already talked to the boys parents about it right after I mentioned it. She is also making sure they are not in the same class next year. I also called the school counselor today. I think that maybe she can help with the phobia as well as learning skills to deal with that kind of kid. He will have to learn how to deal with these types of kids, but it is not something he will learn on his own.

Renee

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In reply to: rbear4
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 12:15pm
LOL, that is totally Mike! Last night I did kill the darn spider he saw and let him watch me flush it. Still wouldn't sleep in his room. Finally agreed to sleep with his little brother. Dave has no fear of anything and gladly agreed to protect Mike! We have used the "you are so big and the bug is so little that he is more afraid of you" as well as the "if you don't bother them they won't bother you". Neither seems to help. It is pretty bad when David offers to kill the bugs for Mike so he won't be afraid. It was hysterical the day David said "Mom, give me da' bat. I get da bug!" and stomped off with a plastic baseball bat on a mission to kill a big bag daddy longlegs.

See just like the terrorizing the babysitter thing. So nice to know there are others out there. Of course the babysitting woes, nor the bug phobias are in any of the symptoms of AS that I have seen. Funny how many things are alike.

Renee

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In reply to: rbear4
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 9:02pm
LOL. YES!! Tim insists on his "little" brother being in there

or he will not go to sleep.....lol, it's kind of cute.

Sean (9) will come get my flip flop sandal and go on his mission for us

sometimes..lmao. He won't if it's a wasp though. Also, Tim will

go get Sean or his little sister to turn on the bathroom

light for him. (how ironic.. usually the big brother helps the

little ones).
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Registered: 05-23-2003
In reply to: rbear4
Fri, 05-23-2003 - 9:56pm
My ds is the same way - not will all bugs though, mainly just bees and wasps. We get a lot of wasps in the summer - not sure why. Mostly in the garage (attic access) but occasionally they come into the house. He'll go out to the garage to take the dirty clothes out there and will drop everything and run back inside and hide in his bedroom. He won't kill roaches (we live in TX on the coast so we get waterbugs) but hates them. His 3 yo sister will stomp them all away though! lol! She's not even afraid of the wasps! We had a "downed" one the other day - on the floor but still alive and I was hollering for a shoe to smash it. So my dd comes in (she had shoes on) and just stomped over and over until it stopped moving! Too funny! It's us girls in the house that have to do the dirty work - my dh won't kill things either. I had to kill mice when we had an infestation and had to kill a garden snake that got in our house once. Dh was frozen! lol!

Anyway, ds has gotten better actually and I'm not sure exactly what did it. Maybe the fact that I quit helping him by getting rid of the things. Lately if we have a wasp flying around, I've been taking my sweet time getting around to getting rid of it. No reason, just busy and don't see it as an emergency. And now HE'S opening the window and door so they ahve a way out and then lightly shooing them in the direction he wants them to go. I was so proud the other day that he did it all by himself! Shocked actually! He's still freaked out and does his "toe" dance (hops around on his toes) and hollers but he hasn't been running away at least. hopefully it'll get better w/ more exposure. At least *I* feel less alone now! lol!

Julie

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In reply to: rbear4
Sat, 05-24-2003 - 10:00pm
Julie, I had to LOL at your discription of your DH. He sounds too much like my dad. I remember being 8yo and waking up one morning to find him standing on a chair in the middle kitchen swating at a garden snake with a dishcloth. I walked over to the snake, picked it up, and took it out to the fence (poor thing). For the rest of the day my dad raved to my sister's and step-mom about how brave I was, LOL. But then, Dad is a city boy and I was only there to visit. The rest of my time was normally spend on my mom's ranch.

My DH is the exact opposite though. Thanks to his Aspieness, he has no sense of pain, danger, or fear,....at least in regards to himself. One time a Yellow Jacket landed in Jade's hair and she ran screaming (of course). DH grabed her with one hand and the yellow jacket with the other. He just clamped down on the sucker with a bare hand and crushed it in his fist. It stung him of course, but no one knew that until 20 minutes later when he showed the sting to dd12 (then 10) and asked her if it was supposed to be making his hand swell up like that. That became my oldest dd's first expirience with drivig a car (she was 15 and just gotten her permit the day before) as she had to drive him to the ER for a shot of anti-toxin (I was at the store). That was also when we found out DH was allergic to Yellow Jackets, LOL.

Candes

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In reply to: rbear4
Sat, 05-24-2003 - 11:45pm
Too funny! I was proud of ds today b/c at my grandma's house pillbugs (doodle bugs, rollie polies, whatever you call them) were everywhere and the kids were playing w/ the all day! It was hilarious to watch them too. But by the end of the day, ds had named several of them (speedy, speedy 2, speedy 3 - well, he's not exactly creative when it comes to naming - lol). I was suprised he wasn't grossed out or something by them. And there were several wasps flying around (hey, we were outside!) and it really didn't phase him! YEA ds! He had a good day I think!

Yellow jackets - when I was about 4, I was at the babysitter's house. I vaguely remember this. I LOVED the outdoors and bugs and things. Lizards were my favorite. Well, I saw one on her back fence so I was trying to get it but it kept getting away from me. So I took a stick and tried to get it off the fence so I could get it. But I disturbed a yellow jacket nest. I don't remember getting stung though. I remember all that up to that point and then I remember crying and sitting on the bathroom counter while the babysitter washed me up and put medicine on all FORTY FOUR stings! My mom came and took me to the hospital where amazingly I had ZERO reaction to. Which the doctor said at the time meant that we'd have to extremely careful b/c if I ever got stung again, I might end up w/ a lifethreatening reaction. I think I'm fine though b/c while I was scared for a long time even until the last couple years, I remembered an incident - driving down the freeway and I was laying down in the back seat. Probably about 10-13 years old. And something hit my arm. We had that 260 air condition (2 windows down, 60 miles an hour! lol) so something had flown in and hit my arm. I remember saying "What was that?" and my mom looking around to see but she couldn't. I reached up by my arm and picked it up. And got stung! It was a yellow jacket! But no reaction. So maybe I'm lucky. Those things are nasty though! Too funny about your dh though - scared of a snake but kills a bee w/ his bare hand (and swells up for it too!)! Thanks for sharing that!

Julie