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| Sat, 11-03-2007 - 5:54pm |
Here is your chance to de-lurk in introduce yourself.
| Sat, 11-03-2007 - 5:54pm |
Here is your chance to de-lurk in introduce yourself.
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I'm 40yo SAHM, with:
45yo un-dx AS dh,
13yo AS dd,
11yo NT ds (allergies, probably ADHD & outgrowing some sensory issues),
9yo AS ds,
4yo NT dd (allergies, probably ADHD & sensory issues).
Can you tell which kids take after dh side of the family and which take after mine?! lol! We're in the Wash DC metro area.
13yo AS dd is a voracious reader, easily reading several hundred pages a day. She naturally does well academically tho' she still struggles with her handwriting which looks like a 1st graders. She enjoys lots of things in theory but doesn't act on, or finish, most of them since they require effort and concentration. She has done well in drama and has had lead roles in local church children and youth group plays she's participated in, which she has thoroughly loved.
11yo NT ds is your stereotypical boy. I've often thought if I could merge my first two kids I'd have a superhuman child that could excel in all areas academic and physical. Ds does well enough academically, but it doesn't come as naturally as it does to my AS kids, especially spelling. He loves sports and has lots of school friends and neighborhood friends. He's generally a good kid, but he struggles with being patient with his AS siblings. He's a funny kid, too, with a quick wit and sneaky, silly pranks.
9yo AS ds is kind hearted (when his AS doesn't get in the way). He does well academically, generally, but he gets hung up in a couple of areas like inferential thinking and writing. He loves all things space/planet and time related. About a year ago he got into Pokemon and is just starting to get into Yugioh. Those have been a boon to him socially since it gives him one thing that he can relate to his peers with. He is even able to "play" occasionally with a neighbor boy as long as they're discussing Pokemon.
4yo NT dd is a cute but ornery pistol. She is the little girl with the curl in the middle of her forehead (which she has) -- she is either very good or very horrid! She loves to push 9yo AS ds buttons and send him into rages, but other times she is a good playmate. Dd orders around/drags around our big, standard sized Lab/Poodle mix dog to make the dog play with her, and the dog usually obeys dd 'cus dd is definitely an alpha female (the dog doesn't listen to the 9yo or 13yo AS kids, but the 4yo is very much in charge)! 4yo dd seems to have gotten the best and worst of everyone's personalities. She's smart as a whip (probably 1st or 2nd grade skills) but has tantrums the size of Texas!
I lurk much more than I post (both because of time constraints and because I have far less to offer than what I still need to learn), but I love, Love, LOVE this board. It just makes me feel so much better hearing everyone's ideas and knowing I'm not alone in my struggles.
I posted this in the other section but I think this is where I should have posted.
Hi folks,
I have been lurking for a while and thought I should introduce myself.
After being with my husband for over 15 years (married 12) and struggling with many aspects of our marriage, I finally found out that my husband has Aspergers Syndrome.
No one ever mentioned it, until my it occurred to my in-laws to mention that my FIL probably has AS -- only after I was pregnant :( Needless to say that my initial concerns were for my unborn child, and then after he was born and I wasn't getting the type of emotional support that one would expect from a typical relationship after our son was born, things started going downhill quickly.
When my son was 18 months old, my husband decided that since I was stressed and unhappy in our marriage that the logical solution was to get a divorce.....
Only after we separated did it occur to me that my husband may himself have Aspergers and the more I read, the more I was sure that it was the case.
In the mean time, our son was exhibiting some minor delays and potential red flag behavior, so I got him evaluated and he has been getting early intervention including OT, PT and Speech as well as going to a fantastic Early Intervention pre-school program which has been tremendously helpful.
Our son is high-functioning and very bright, and his behaviors and idiosyncrasies are subtle so he may not "qualify" for an official dx at this time -- and I am thankful that he is doing so well -- since I hear so many stories about kids who miss out on the window of early intervention and only get the attention they need when they are 5-6 years old or even older.
Anyhow, I'm still trying to learn as much as possible, because I would rather err on the side of caution and getting the needed services, because I know all to well what the consequences are of living with a high-functioning undiagnosed adult who is never wrong, very literal, and clueless when it comes to basic "common sense" and who is incapable of being supportive and attentive intuitively.
Thanks for listening
Michelle -- aka NotCAATY=Not Crazy After All These Years
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Hi Michelle,
Welcome. I'm glad you posted up here. A lot of us forget to check the lower depths of the board.
A few of us have spouses who are likely on the spectrum.
visit my blog at www.onesickmother.com
I guess I'm more a lurker but when stressed I come out of the shadows. LOL My name is Michelle and we live here in Illinois. I have a son, Dakota, age 8, with PDD-NOS, ADHD and ODD; and a NT daughter, Sierra. Yes, I am married. His name is Nathan.
Don't remember when I first started coming here but I think its been at least 2 years I've been on this board posting or lurking. I know I was still going to school for nursing when I first appeared and now have been a RN for a year and half now. So yes, have to says its been over 2 years. LOL
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