Can I vent?...more

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Can I vent?...more
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 2:01am
Update:

about the misunderstanding between us and the PhD.details is on my post below.I was so upset when the PhD asked for $110.00 reimbursement for the rating inventories,these are the BASC,CARS,Parents behavior checklist, that he sent out as part of his intake forms, we filled them out as he requested, (hubby and I) and my ds's teacher,OT and Slp. As it turned out we didn't go to this PhD, so we cancelled ahead of time like what their policy stated,then 2 mos. after, we got a call from the receptionist inquiring about my son's appt. she said, "I'm calling because we don't have an appt. for your son, but we have a lot of paperworks from him", meaning the inventories that we filled-out and my son's past evaluation report from school, and any other testing that he had. So I told her that we cancelled awhile back and that we decided to take him to a Developmental Ped. instead, and I suggested that she just send the papers back and I will reimburse them the cost of postage. The Receptionist then told me to leave a message for the PhD to let him know, of 'course I didn't leave any message, thinking, oh well, they could just get rid of those papers, like throw them in the garbage.then the next day, the PhD himself gave me a call, and saying the same thing as the recepitonist said, and of 'course I said the same thing as I told the receptionist,I don't want to talk to him too long, so as not to slip and say that we already seen a Dev. Ped. thinking that it might insult him. then last Wed. the papers came with a typed note from him saying that he'll appreciate it if I reimburse $110.00 for the 11 testing and scoring ($10 each) that has been completed, whoaaa, I didn't expect that.I called the receptionist and told her about the misunderstanding ,she said as soon as he got the info. he worked on them, my question is surely he knew that there might be a cancellation sometimes for several reasons? the date on the papers he claimed he did was June 21, and our appt. was supposed to be on June 26th,we cancelled way ahead of that time,it seems to me that it was the receptionist fault that he wasn't informed of the cancellation?of 'course she connected me to his voice mail again. I didn't leave a message again, I e-mailed him instead.Well, my husband told me to pay him,no matter how I tried to reason with him, he just said "Just pay the guy", I finally said, "Fine", and wrote a check and mailed it Friday. My husband told me that he might take us to small claims court,or report us to the credit bureau and that's not good for our credit record, and that he will win, and we just might end-up paying more.Today, The PhD answered my e-mail, he said he'd rather not take any payment for the expenses that he incurred if I think that they're not valid, and that I should use them to consult a professional to develop the necessary intervention for my son. I didn't think that they're not valid, it's jsut that I won't be using them since we're not going to see him anyhow.The end of his e-mail said I need not make any payment and thank me for letting him know. (with an ! )I only browse through the papers, and doesn't really know what they mean, I guess I could add them to my mounting paperwork.Oh well,Let's just say, I gamble and lost.

Thanks for letting me vent.

C.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 08-12-2003 - 2:07am
Oh, BTW I sent him an e-mail Friday morning that his check is already on it's way, so he knew that I paid him. I'm surprised he even bothered to e-mail me back.
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Registered: 07-11-2003
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 5:08am
Oh wow, I'm sorry you had to go through all of that, C. I'm dealing with a few professionals who have similar attitudes right now, it really sucks. But a word to the wise here. Don't be afraid of letting him know that you are already seeking help from another dr. Remember, these people are 'manditory reporters' on suspected child abuse. If he thinks there is deffinately a problems with your kid and he likewise thinks that you have abandoned getting help or are refusing to get him help then he is required to call CPS. Don't worry about hurting his feelings. You are so sweet and so polite, I would hate to hear some idiot caused you further problems just because you were using good manners. I've found out that manners really have no place in the eval proccess. You have to get tough and be blunt to make things happen.

But that being said, feel free to use those good manners here. There are a few of us, myself especially, who could learn from your good example. ;)

Peace,

Candes