can wine be out into an iv bag ?

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Registered: 06-03-2006
can wine be out into an iv bag ?
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Fri, 07-07-2006 - 10:12pm
son saw psych wednesday. in addition to asperger pdd and possible bi polar we can add adhd. prescription cost $110.00(WITH INSURANCE)for one month. Before son went to see his dad tonight he told me i'm a terrible mom,don't do anything for him, don't buy him things,etc. I'm tired. So my question is son had core recently but was denied an iep because of effective progress. he was given a 504- to be written by the new school. do i tell the new school about the adhd? when i called the special ed coordinator at new school about the 504 she was useless. "children in advanced classes are not special needs." or do i wait til september?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-08-2006 - 12:06am

well, IMO Wine tastes better when taken orally but if you prefer a bag I will set you up. It sounds like you need it today.

Wow, I am just so sorry about all that. You have had a rough few days and a rough time with the school. Sending loads of hugs and REALLY expensive cyber wine. I love this local wine bar called "Friar's Follies" that we only go to on rare occasions because a bottle and some snacks will set you back $50 minimum. I will take you on a cyber trip there.

As for the extra diagnosis, let me just reitterate what I wrote somewhere else. Kids with ASD have lots of different traits of lots of different things as part of thier individual ASD. Many kids will also meet the criteria for ADHD, mood issues, etc. It doesn't change who he is. It is just that he is a boy with some neurologic issues on the higher functioning end of the autism spectrum. I understand your frustration with this. My son in the past has been diagnosed with OCD, ADHD, possible mood disorder, SID, anxiety disorder, and a few others. He meets the criteria independently for those but it is all part of his expression of autism spectrum disorder and once I get to the bottom of how to help him then that is the main thing. Sometimes those extra labels just give you a direction on how to help him.

His being ADHD didn't change who he is, just gave you another direction of something to try. ADHD meds have worked well with some spectrum kids, sometimes not. Be wary for signs of increased anxiety or social withdrawal as well as insomnia. Those are signs that stimulants might not be the right choice for him.

As for the comments from your son, big hugs for that too. Just try to read between the lines and not take his comments personally. It is possible he was nervous about going to dad's (change of any sort is hard) or about something else and they take it out verbally on mom.

As for the school. dear lord don't even get me started there! But you may want to see if there is some access to some sort of educational consultant or advocacy service. If the only option is paying for one privately you can learn to fight it on your own but it sounds from that school it is going to be not a fun argument and it would be good to have someone helping your side.

So, pinot? Cab? What is your poison?

Renee

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Sat, 07-08-2006 - 4:10am

I always give this advice now, but head on over to iVillage IEP Board. Those ladies are also advocates as well as moms of special needs, and they really understand the laws. They can really help you out to better understand your rights and how you can fight this. You very well may need an advoate, as Renee suggested, there can be public assistance ones available. Many children are ASD and gifted. My son is, but we have him in a special needs school for bright children... Your son will need accomodations in order to succeed on an emotional and social level and there is case law now that completely refutes what the special ed person said about advanced students! The school must address the complete child and behavior as well, the law says so. And I believe the IEP ladies will tell you to push (again) for an IEP, a 504 is not enough protection.

I also send heart-felt sympathy and chocolate and wine and many, many (((((hugs))))). As you learn what is really going on with him, this will help you to plan and understand more. He is not the product of bad parenting, he has a very challenging disability. Knowledge is power,and now that you know, you will be better able to prepare, help and raise him...

More big ((((hugs))))

Sara
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Registered: 06-03-2006
Sat, 07-08-2006 - 9:15am
my poison would be shiraz while in a bubble bath,with the music loud enough to drowned out my thoughts. thank you for the support and information.today is another day, it should be better. i do pop over to the iep/504 board. i'll ask their thoughts later today.
have a great day!