Chapter 2: Cian's teacher

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Chapter 2: Cian's teacher
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 3:08pm

I say ch:2 as I feel I am in a bad novel and ch:1 was Liam's teacher this week.

Excuse me while I SCREEEAAAAMMMMM!!!! You would think a spec ed teacher who has 20 years experience would at least in a little way GET my developmentally delayed son. As you are all aware Cian is no where near potty ready. he still wears a pull up, pees and poops happily away and then doesn't (a) tell me or (b) seems genuinely unaware he's done anything.

So he's been in this spec ed preschool class now for two weeks, and eveyday I'm sent home the agenda that they tried to take him to the potty 3 times and he never goes for them. (Considering I've been trying to get him to go for me for 2 years now, why they think they can get him trained in 2 weeks is beyond me).

Today Cian's "genius" of a teacher decided to WITHOLD a birthday treat (another kid's birthday) until Cian pee'd in the potty. WTF!!!!!! Where is the positive reinforcement there??? She wrote and I quote, he is being "willful." No lady he just could care less about toilet training. Punishing him will get you f'all.

So after reading this and taking several deep breaths I asked Cian if he had cake today. "No....because I was a bad boy." Several deep breaths again, I asked him calmly what it was that he thought was bad. and he said "Ms.A told me I can't have cake until I go pee pee on the potty."

Well guess what, Cian didn't go and he didn't get cake. BTW, he loves cake. I'm at a total loss here. I'm still reeling from Liam's teacher's ineptitude, now I am doing it all over again with Cian's. I mean for the love a Pete....aaarararararaghghgh

Tonight when kids are aleep I am downing an entire pint of Phish Food and watching Rome on dvd. Then I may be calm enough to figure out what to do.

Dee

edited to add, no I haven't managed to track down the friggin' psych either;(




Edited 9/13/2007 3:33 pm ET by roanmom
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 4:12pm

((Dee)),


That's not cool. I would definitely speak to a higher up on that one. When I worked at a preschool many moons ago, it was our written policy that a child would never be punished for anything related to toileting, training etc. Be it an nt kid or especially a dev. delayed little one. In my ds's class there are two children who are in 4th & 5th grade who still need assistance as they cannot feel when they need to go. As a sped. teacher she should really know that. I'm sorry that happened to Cian. Poor little man. A child should never be shamed for accidents, inability to use the potty etc.


On another note. I love Rome. I've only seen it twice, but I'm so buying the dvd set. The guy who plays Caeser (I think it's Caeser) is so hot. LOL.


 

Jen

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 4:17pm

Dee,


(((((hugs)))) girly, Things have been tough for you recently.


Here's the inherent problem with 20 years experience: Her training is 20 years out of date. Yes, in the 80s it was considered OK to withhold food for punishment or to use food as a reward. That was back in the early days of ABA, when they seemed to think Auties had no intelligence or feelings. Things have since changed

-Paula

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 5:34pm

Well isn't that just flippin' brilliant?!?!

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