Chore Charts

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Chore Charts
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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 2:22am
I was having trouble keeping Jordan on task for his chores. The simpliest, minor things threw him into such deep thoughts, it was scary. For example he didn't know which drawer to put his bathing suits in underwear or pants/shorts. Technically he said bathing suits are underwear because you don't wear underwear with them, but bathing suits are not like underwear because you can't wear underwear out of house. So he left them in a pile in the middle of the floor because he couldn't make up his mind and didn't want to get it "wrong". The other thing that confused him were the pants that the legs zipper off to make shorts, he couldn't figure out whether or not they were considered shorts or pants. Every chore was going that poorly.

I created for him a chore chart with clip art pictures (from a 500,000 clip art set)to give him visual cues about his chores. For example I found a found a clip art of an overflowing laundry hamper and titled it "when your hamper is full bring it to the laundry room". Now he won't have to ask me "how full do you mean?". I found clip art for getting dressed, setting an alarm clock, brushing teeth, taking his meds, taking a shower, reading a book, taking out the trash, etc.

As a reward method for her son, my girlfriend uses marbles to symbolize a completed chore. Each marble is worth 10 cents and they can earn up to a dollar a day. When her son is done with his chore he puts the marble in the done jar (she bought 50 marbles and empties the jar every week). Every Sunday they count the marbles in the jar, then he gets his money. We borrowed this idea.

This method seems to be working for both kids (the other kid does not have AS), so I though I would pass it along.

Leenie

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In reply to: leenie29
Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:36am
That's so great that it's working for you!!

Our psychotherapist has us on Helper charts, and that seems to be working rather well. Pretty simple....they get a stamp/sticker for each positive behaviour (feeding the cats, talk nicely to each other(which is broken into three segments for each day), following outside rules, brushing teeth without a fight, pick up their things) each day of the week. When we first started, there were very few marks anywhere on the chart! Now, it's mostly full most of the time. Still no rewards at the end of the week, because we are trying to stress to Tristan just how crucial good behaviours are, regardless of the outcome. (a big prob he has had in the past is the "what do I get out of this" syndrome, which seriously needs broken!)

Charts are a great helper.....and they have also helped us see Tristan's patterns, which is helping us get closer to a dx of bipolar - having it layed out right in front of you like that makes it VERY clear! Now, if only our psychiatrist would pay attention to these!! lol

~Carrie

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Registered: 07-11-2003
In reply to: leenie29
Wed, 08-27-2003 - 5:27pm
HEY! I like that idea, can I steal it? LOL. Jordan sounds a lot like my DH and Jade when it comes to cleaning up and organizing. They both have a hard time figuring out where things should go; unlike Ayla, dgm, and Eva, who have their oppinions on where something should go and get ticked off it I put it someplace else. Tee Hee.

I have a few suggestions on those 'hard to catagorize' things....(we've been over these issues in detail in my house, lol)...we have hooks in the closets for swimsuits. Since they are rather unique in function we found a unique place/way to keep them. Those zipper-off leg pants? They go with the pants, but should always be stored with legs firmly zipped ON so as not to get confused (or loose the legs). The saddest sight in the world is a 38 yo man pouting like a 5yo b/c he can find his pants but not the pant legs. LOL

Btw, where did you find that clip-art set? that's something we are constantly looking for around here. Can it be found online? :D (wiggling eyebrows)

Peace,

Candes

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Registered: 04-05-2003
In reply to: leenie29
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:19am
Candes,

I'll email you the chore chart in a version you can modify. My girlfriends who don't have AS kids have had me make their children a version for them. I feel like I stumpled onto something. I made it very specific without using a lot of words to eliminate questions.

The clip art that I used was from Art Explosion - 500,000 clip art images, mostly images in the kids stuff, education, laundry and entertainment.

I put the chore chart in a page protector and hung it off the handle on his night table, so he can see what he has to do without asking questions. I also put another copy in a page protector and hung it in my kitchen (I gave my parent's a copy as well for when he stays there). The two metal buckets for the reward marbles (each marble is worth 10 cents and the chores done bucket is tallied every Sunday) are labled "Chores I need to do" with a clip art of a child standing over a mess looking frantic and all the marbles are stored in that bucket. The second bucket is of a boy sleeping and labled "Chores I have done" and that is were the chores done marbles are put. We also told him that he must put half of this money in his bank account. He's really warmed to the idea and I love it because I dont' have to remind him to do something because it's right in front of him.

Since so many clothing things confuse Jordan, I created a "confusion bin" in his closet. It's a large plastic bin that he can put whatever items of clothing confuse him, such as sweatshirts (because you can wear them as either an indoor shirt or as a jacket), bathing suits, and long underwear (he also wears them as pajamas). This bin seems to help him and saves my sanity. The added benefit is I don't have to say to him "put away your ..." when I find a lump of clothes in the middle of the floor.

The zip off pant leg thing gets comical in my house because Jordan will not "let" me put the legs on until the fall (that's when you wear long pants not in the summer - LOL). So to minimize my confusion with many legs loose, all of Jordan's zip off pants are the same color.

Have fun,

Leenie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:33am
Hi, I also keep the legs to the zip off pants in a seperate spot to prevent confusion. Another thing I do is everytime he wears a pair of shorts with zip off legs I throw the legs in the hamper when I get the matching shorts out for him to wear, that way they are getting washed the same number of times as the shorts do and won't look a different shade (after the shorts have faded from so much washing)then the legs will match the shorts when fall gets here and we zip them back on.