Christmas already?

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Christmas already?
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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 8:06am
Jade has been going nuts trying to figure out what she wants for Christmas.....it's only September! I keep telling her that we still have to get though Halloween and Thanksgiving, but she has become obsessed with Christmas. It's my fault in a way though. I have been trying too figure out what we are going to do in GS for Christmas presents for the grandparents (think plaster of paris). I really have to watch what I talk about in front of her. She's driving me nuts with this!

And the funny thing is, she isn't thinking in terms of presents for other people, except when it comes to DH. She's her normal Aspie self and thinking of all the things SHE wants, but she's also thinking of her dad. Today she was asking me every 5 minutes what I thought he might want..."Mom, you think Daddy would like a new hammer thingy? Can you talk to Santa about that for me?" or "Mom, you think Dad wants a new truck? I can't afford a truck, but maybe you can..." or "Mom, can I get Daddy a cat? He likes cats, we can name it Chuckles after Grandpa Chuck. He's Daddy's dad ya know...." or "Mom, I think Daddy wants a new house, a big one with one of those garages that are entirely seperate buildings. They make 'em like that sometimes." I had to really refrain from just shouting "SHUT UP!!!!". I really have to remember not to talk about Christmas anymore in front of her. I just wonder why she's zeroing in on her dad. I'm gald she's thinking about someone besides herslef for once, but SHEESH! I need ear plugs.

Peace,

Candes

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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 3:56pm
If you let on to Cait at ALL that Christmas is coming I will never forget it. Honest, thanks for the reminder. As soon as she realizes that christmas stuff is out in the stores it is over for me. Onto insanity. Of course first we have to get through halloween. I am sure I will be going through that soon. "What am I going to be this year mom. When can we get my costume mom?" on and on ad nauseum.

when is a child to old to dress up? Cait will forever and not make that determination on her own. She also prefers the little kid costumes (princess, kitten, etc). I need to try to get her to choose something a little more age appropriate. She is the size of a young adult and developing so the princess costumes look really ridiculus.

Renee

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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 4:17pm
Yes, Christmas has reared itself around here, too. Of course, it doesn't help when we go to the stores, and the Christmas decorations are already OUT!!!! No kidding -- here at our WalMart, they already have about a third of their decorations out. So, naturally, Tristan has already started asking about gifts for Christmas (as in what HE wants to get!!).

On the plus side, tho, we have *taught* them well, and since they see all this stuff, they realize that they aren't to ask me and daddy for things, but rather put it all on their list so they don't forget to ask Santa about it!! Goodness, I love that part - we get a few months of the year with no-to-little "Mommy, can I have that pllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease??" every two mins!! ROFL

~Carrie

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Sat, 09-20-2003 - 6:34am
Okay, when you figure that out let me know, cause Jade is bound and determind to dress up forever and ever.......just like her dad. LOL, no really, DH dresses up every year to take the kids trick-or-treating. He was Wyatt Errp for 3 years running then last year delcared that he wasn't going to dress up. He ended up wearing his hat, duster, boots, levi's, and button up shirt......but he wasn't dressed up b/c he wasn't wearing his tin star or toating his toy gunbelt. Yeah......right! This year he says he's 'not going to dress up' but he HAS mentioned the nifty adult sized costumes at the Holloween Superstore that just opened up around the corner from his work.

Jade likes to be the princess too! Or rather, in her case, she is the Great Angel Genesis (a character out of book I'm writing). Genesis has long flowing blond hair, with wings made of flowing water. I'll have to post one of the pics from last year's costume so you guys can see. She actually looks like a blue pixie queen in the picture though.

Okay, I promise not to bring Christmas up to Cait. Seeing as how we're 500 miles apart I don't think that will be a problem, LOL. But just in case, you might want to print my picture out and post it with warning lables all over your neighborhood. "If you see this woman hide your children! She's here to remind them that Christmas is coming and they should pester you daily about what they want." I HAVE been known to show an evil streak once in a while (wink). LOL. Okay, I'll be good.

Peace,

Candes

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Sat, 09-20-2003 - 9:48pm
Hi Candes, We haven't started to obsess about X-Mas yet but Sarah HAS been obsessing about Halloween since June LOL! She has been driving everyone crazy. Should she go as a skeleton or something else? The Costume dilemma??? Should she trick-or-treat with a friend or alone with Mom? Her older sister is 14 & won't go trick-or-treating this yr. Sarah is easily obsessed with certain things till the point where you have to leave the room & take deep breaths & hope you don't lose your sanity. & I try to focus the conversation on some other topic, but Halloween ALWAYS comes back. After Halloween, I'm sure it will be X-mas. She likes to look thru the Sears Catalog & circle what she wants... That's a whole other story.
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Sun, 09-21-2003 - 2:25am
Candes,

At least Christmas comes at the same date of year. We celebrate Hanukkah which is enough of a problem around here because it never comes the same day (except on the Jewish calendar)and I refuse to keep a Jewish calendar around. My Aspie has no clue when it's coming and I'm not reminding him. I think in many ways I have it easier (or at least what my non-friends tell me) than you guys. We don't have to do the Santa thing or give the Santa talk when they get older and we don't have to sneak around with presents.

My kids go with me to the store and pick out their own presents. I have rules that they can't weasle out of - 1 big present (think game boy sp)and that's it or 1 med size present (think gameboy game) and 4 small presents (small present think Power Ranger toy guys) or 8 small presents (think schools supplies type stuff from Staples). Then I wrap all their presents, number all of them 1-8 for each kid, write number 1 - 8 individually on a piece of paper, and every night they pick a number and that's the present they get. This "system" thrives in my house because Jordan loves the rules that go with it. It also works because they pick out their own presents and have no one to blame but themselves when they hate it. One less thing to blame me for.

The the other "issue" we have at our holiday is something that should have clued me in that something wasn't quite right with my 4 year old (now 9.5 year old Aspie). We were driving along during the holiday season when out of the blue he asked me "How come if Hanukkah's the Festival of Light, how come we have the darkest house on the block in December?". Good point. I went out and bought Blue Lights. They hang inside my dining room window and the electric menorah also with blue bulbs is underneath the lights. Now he's happy because now it makes sense, but Aspie husband isn't he thinks they're Christmas lights and don't belong in our house (he's not religious, just rigid in a totally different way from his Aspie son).

Oh, as far as Halloween and dressing up, my Aspie won't do that. He thinks costumes are stupid and you're not supposed to take food from strangers. He will only knock on the door of people he knows.

Leenie

FYI - Has anyone read or listen to Jerry Seinfeld's Halloween Book. It is so funny and such a trip down Halloween memory lane.

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Sun, 09-21-2003 - 8:00pm
Well, we've got to get through the BIRTHDAY thing Oct. 8 which Harry has been obsessing about since August. On Friday he was so exhausted from a full week of school, he could barely see straight. He got stuck on wanting to go get a toy--IMMEDIATELY of course--that I promised I'd get for his birthday. I finall wrote him a note that said

Harry

No new toys until your birthday.

Love Mom

It worked...sort of. He still tantrumed but I just kept giving him the note every time he brought up the toy. I know I'll probably give him a present a few days before his birthday because he'll drive us nuts and probably won't sleep if we make him wait.

What a great group here! You all probably don't think what I did was nutsy coo coo!!

Donna

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Mon, 09-22-2003 - 8:31pm
October 8 birthday? Cool! My daughter will turn 6 on that date!!

~Carrie

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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 12:40am
LOL, nope, we don't think you're coo coo. I actually think the note idea is a really good one. Jade is constantly asking "When are we gonna do (insert anything here)?" I am constantly reminding her that whatever it is she is asking about is sceduled for a specific time/date and it cannot be changed. I will try the note thing. I know when I want to get my dgm to remember anything I have to write it down in the form of a note and leave it on her 'desk' at night (her desk is actually her regular chair a the dining table.)

Oh, and don't forget to post a Happy Birthday thread on your Harry's actuall birthday. That way we can all wish him a good day and he can read the well-wishing! :)

Peace,

Candes

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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 9:03am
This ia kind of weird, but Seth's birhday is Oct 8 also.