Christopher's story, continued

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Christopher's story, continued
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:28am
Well, Mr. S. wrote that Chris has had a couple of good days, although he had a lot of frustration with copying things from the overhead projector (I know that's a big problem for lots of kids with AS, and I need to get him some alternatives that Chris can do instead). He wrote that he enjoys Chris as a student, finds him "intelligent and insightful," and he is just delighted with his advanced vocabulary.

One area he's having a problem with is Christopher's inappropriate expressions of anger and frustration. Apparently, he's been stabbing his paper with his pencil, tearing up papers, and turning over chairs. I guess I can see the teacher's point that these behaviors distract and even scare the other kids. To make matters worse, Chris refused to go to his predesignated "safe place" in the classroom when the teacher suggested it. The teacher was able to get him to go to the office (not a punishment, it's another "safe place") and when he came back, he was much calmer. Hmmm, maybe it's the walking that helps him to regain control?? I'll have to consider that.

Anyway, the teacher is going to talk with the other teacher on their team about a good time for a meeting. I'll let you know how it goes.

Elizabeth

P.S. Chris is also dealing with killer seasonal allergies. The kid is stuffy and has red, itchy watery eyes. That can't be helping his disposition, either.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 11:55am
Well, sounds like a step in the right direction. I'm hoping it continues to get better for you and CHris. Just a suggestion, I have to motivate my son to move to a "safe place." Unfortunately my son reacts better to negative motivation than positive. Meaning, I have to threaten him if he doesn't take care of whatever the issue is at the moment. I don't like to threaten (loses privileges) him but I tried the positive and it wasn't a motivator. In the heat of the moment can your son hear the teacher's request? If so, maybe some kind of motivator can be applied? A reward system for using the safe place in the classroom? I pay my son (play money) for proper behavior (using a safe place I would consider proper - if he did it of his own cognizant). He then uses the money to buy time on the computer or playstation. Could you and the teacher impliment a simple form of motivation to use the safe place? I think if you could find the right motivation it could work. Just a thought.

bless

bugs

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:30am
Two words......stress ball. They work wonders for Jade. She is also the type to start tearing things up when she gets frustraited. We bought her her first stress ball when she was 4 and she has gone through a few of them now (gets 'em with her nails). Would it be possible for the teacher to allow Chris to keep one on his desk with him? Either that or modling clay. That's what eva prefers.

About the overheads....I make photocopies of them as worksheets for the kids in the co-op who need them. I know that part of the purpose of using overheads is to give the students a chance to practice copying as a building block for note taking. For that reason I ask my students who use the worksheets to 'replicate' what they see on their worksheet. But I allow them to do it in their own time, and if they never actually get that accomplished at least they haven't fallen behind in gaining the information on the material.

It sounds like things are getting better for Chris. I'm so happy for him. And I'm glad that the new teacher is starting to pull his head out of that warm dark place he seemed to have it before. (wink) I think he will find that having an Aspie in the class makes the whole room feel just a bit more fun.

Peace,

Candes