Cian falling apart, school blaming me:(
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|Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:46pm|
Ugh, I thought I'd posted last night but it's not here now. If this is repetitive to my FB friends sorry, but I needed some feedback. Long story short we are having to battle for a more appropriate placement for Cian.
From as early as Pre-K (sped) he has had a struggle with what all his teachers call "motivation", although as my Mum pointed out that's an inappropriate term for a small child as spontaneity is the cornerstone of childhood;)
Anyhoo, we have had this back and forth with his mediocre at best and downright lazy at worst mainstream teacher. Initially it was a team taught classroom for Reading, Math and Lang Arts, but so many of the kids were so low many ended up in resource and Cian's math ability was too high and would go next door for math class. Now there is no sped teacher, it's just Mrs.Useless. Biggest issue (but not the only) with her is NO COMMUNICATION.
Emails never responded to, while all the other 1st grade teachers are sending home the weekly newsletter or at least linking it in an email, she assumes we all remember to drop everything each Friday and go to her newsletter via the county website. Hello, 3 sped kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats, a husband and a life means I WILL totally flake out about it. (Even the few time on it it's all stolen from the other 1st grade teachers newsletters, lol).
She has on at least two occasions sent whiny notes as to Cian's "lack of motivation", his "disinterest" "how can I (the parent) help with this???" Blah blah blah.
By March she was moaning on again about motivating him to read the stories, answer the questions on comprehension questions. That he was disinterestd in all his classes even specials, (head down on desk etc).
We tried attaching his allowance to participation (eg: 70% participation=$1 of allowance). I have no clue if it worked or how long it did IF they even implemented it; nobody bothered to catch me up.
I email the school psychologist asking how we need to proceed giving Cian is now withdrawn and gone all turtle in a half shell on them. He gets back to me a couple of days later with "oh spoke to his teachers, he WAS having motivation issues, but he's improving again with logical consequences"....erm logical consequences ...okaaaay!
Then around the same time his teacher who NEVER communicates unless she is forced to hand scrawled a whingy whiney note on the cover of his state standardized Pre test (which he failed miserably)about how Cian's lost motivation, his attitude toward school effectively has shifted to uncaring. How he needs to give his best effort,yadee yadee yada!
So if I am with the psychologist saying he's talked to the teachers and although it was a bit bumpy things are improving, why is his teacher sending me a note home from the same time frame where she (a) has decided Cian's given up and (b) the note definitely smacked of "so what are you as his parents going to do about it!!?"
Lately my quiet, happy loner(but happy within himself) has become encreasingly stimmy, mean, angry, argumentative, oppositional (although after Liam it's a drop in the bucket). Still, I can't help but think it's all connected.
We have a "meeting" scheduled for next Tuesday. I'm not even sure if it's an IEP or something else and who exactly will be there. I have requested that info though. I just hate how vague they choose to be...ugh!! And now Cian and Roan are throttling eachother, sigh!