Concerned about the baby...

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Registered: 03-30-2005
Concerned about the baby...
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 12:10am

Nathan is now 8 1/2 months old. And I'm getting a little concerned. I'm hoping it's paranoia (not out of the question) or maybe just that he's a boy?? sorry, ... that sounds dumb. Anyway, he is too aware/attentive/interactive for me to REALLY think ASD, but I swear the kid stims. He will flick things to watch them move - he holds his pacifier by the nipple and will flick the handle back and forth over and over. He also does it with other things (anything with a handle or anything that dangles). It's very intentional, not baby-batting-at-hanging-stuff. He also has wicked texture issues with food - a too thick puree will make him choke and then vomit. He can't eat baby cereal, and I have to thin half of the jarred stage 2 purees I buy. But he eats crunchy things like cheerios and crackers just fine.

Other than that he's doing OK - his motor skills are a little behind, but not really delayed. He has an appointment with an optometrist in 2 weeks b/c we think he might have strabismus (crossed eyes - they're not completely crossed, but they don't seem to line up quite right - like me, unfortunately). Something just feels "off" but at this point I don't think it's enough that anyone's going to want to do anything about it.

Help! Any advice?

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 1:20pm

Once you have one involved child, you become hypersensitive about subsequent children. I did. In both cases, it turned out to be warrented eventually. I got EI in early, and didn't always qualify the first time, but at least they were in the system and being watched. It made me feel better.

By all means, have your child evaluated but don't expect to qualify so early. It's really hard to pick up subtle things this early. Things that would qualify at this age are more not making gross motor milestones etc. But you'll be in the system and have someone to call if your concerns continue.

Best of luck and let us know how it goes.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 2:11pm

((hugs))

                                

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Registered: 03-30-2005
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 11:48pm

Thanks, all. I have been hypervigilant with him - I'll admit I was nervous from the beginning about having a boy because there is so much ASD in our extended family (in addition to DD). So, I have been watching him extra close, and may be picking up on things that wouldn't otherwise show at this age. But, he also has some quirks that I don't think are quite typical.

I will call EI, but I think I'm going to wait until after his eye exam and I know what I'm dealing with on that. And I would really like to see where his motor skills are, too. I have EDS like Paula, and I think I may have passed it on to Nathan - which would explain the crossed eyes and motor skill issues anyway (although still not the flicking...)

(sigh)

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 7:03pm

I think it's pretty understandable that you are hypervigilant and it does no harm to raise these concerns. I do know that professionals had a lot of concerns about DD2 all of which turned out to be groundless, and that for a while he span things and was the *most* 'autistic-behaving' toddler you could imagine, only, he wasn't. And he certainly isn't now. So it may well be something, and it may well be nothing! Just try not to let your concerns get in the way of enjoying your gorgeous baby.



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