concerned mom

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Registered: 10-09-2003
concerned mom
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Tue, 10-14-2003 - 11:29am
Hi-

I'm new here. I've been concerned about my ds. He sometimes will repeat a sentence. For example, he asked me twice yesterday within 30 minutes, "Will I have a dinosaur cake?" His birthday is coming up next month and we've already told him he will have one. He did this again this am. It was the first thing he said when he woke up. I told him yes and about 15 minutes later, he asked me the same thing. Finally, he said yes, I will have a dinosaur cake. Last Friday, dh told me he asked, "Will I have a dinosaur party?" two or three times and dh had to tell him to stop asking. His babysitter has said that when his sister spilled a drink, he told her, "CJ spilled her drink." several times and she said yes and finally gave him more information which seemed to satisfy him.

Another concern about him is his need to hug his sister. They will be playing then he will want to hug her. She gets sick of him but if I try to redirect him, he will at least touch her somehow. He does the same with us. When I become a little firm with him, he will ask for a kiss. I've finally told him that he can kiss me at bedtime or when we leave or greet each other. He has accepted it but will at least ask to hold my hand briefly.

Are these asperger's traits? Is he just a sensitive kid who needs reassurance or approval. Is he trying to get more information from us or attention? I'm going to try to ask him, "What do you think?" when he asks repetitive questions or tell him to tell me more about what happened.

Thanks in advance for any advice. I have a conference with his pediatrician on the 23rd about this.

Jenny and Brady who will be 4 next month.

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Registered: 06-25-2003
In reply to: abckids3
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 12:55pm
Hi Jenny,

Welcome.

I am no expert on Aspergers traits, so I will leave that question to another member of the board. However, tell us a little more about Brady. Is he a very social child? Does he seek the company of his peers? What are his main interests?

The hugging and touching *could* be a sensory thing. Check out the Sensory Integration Dysfunction board here at ivillage. There is a web site on top which has good information and explanations about SID and Occupational Therapy.

HTH

-Paula

-Paula

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: abckids3
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 6:42pm
hello,

First of all it is impossible to make a cyber diagnosis and to say those symptoms are definitely of concern. Could it be something related to asperger's traits or simply a sensitive child? The traits you mentioned can be common amung asperger's children, but that definitely doesn't mean it is asperger for sure. . But my basic rule of thumb is if mom is worried then it is worth checking out. Mom's intuitively know and understand their children and if they feel something is amiss, even if it is hard to explain, then it is worth checking out.

I would ask your ped. about it and ask for a referral. If the doc gives you the "wait and see" approach and you are not comfortable with it, do not be afraid to ask for a 2nd oppinion, be real pushy for a referral or seek a new ped.

I read a great article today in parenting magazing at my kids dentist about it today as well. It was from a book I am trying to remember, but it reiterated that sometimes there is just something slightly amiss and parents, particularly the primary caregiver, are the first to notice and it is real good to get an early start as soon as you are concerned.

Anyhoo, welcome to our board. I will try to find that article and book.

Renee

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Registered: 07-11-2003
In reply to: abckids3
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 7:39pm

Hi Jenny, and welcome to the board. :)<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />


Well, first of all, I don't know how much you know about AS, so I will give a brief synopsis, just so we're on the same page. Asperger's Syndrome is a specific kind of ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). AS frequently comes with co-morbidities, or diagnosis in tangent. For instance, my 9yo dd has a comorbid condition of Sensory Integration Dysfunction. For her it's a separate issue all together, even though 'inappropriate touching' is a common trait of ASDs. She touches everything, her sisters, her self (face, lips, picks at hands), doors, electronic equipment (okay, so she's been know to lick the TV a time or two, lol), etc. Most people with ASDs aren't that severe with sensory problems, but she is, so it's a separate condition in her. She has more sensory issues, but I won't get into them here.


I urge parents who are new to the spectrum to take a step back and look at the spectrum in general, not just a single specification like AS. Tiny little things can make the difference between AS, PDD-NOS, and HFA. The first question should be "Is my child at risk for ASD?” If your do your homework and come up with a 'yes' answer then you look at the specifications and take the next step, which involves making parental observation notes and talking to your dr.


Since inappropriate touching and concept repetition are both ASD traits I want to present you with a few more questions you should ask yourself:


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Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: abckids3
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 6:35pm
Hi-

I appreciate your comments. Brady is a quiet and reserved child. However, he can play with other children that he knows very well. He loves to pretend play and has just started to be interested in dinosaurs. He often acts like T-rex and I have to be the poor Brontosaurus who has been attacked and died. He likes to build with legos and lincoln logs. He has taken an interest in drawing now. He loves going to birthday parties. We went to one last Sunday and he was excited about it. He's definitely looking forward to his birthday!

I'm just going to discuss my concerns with the doctor. When he is being repetitive, I've been trying to ask him to tell me what I've told him or what he thinks. He will answer me and stop doing it. Perhaps it became a habit for him to get attention. I'm keeping an open mind about it though.

Thanks so much for your support.

Jenny