Coworker teasing my ASD child
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|Thu, 09-16-2010 - 10:32am|
I have a coworker who gets a little carried away with teasing. Mostly he teases children who come visit. He does do in good fun but often its over the line. My 15 ASD daughter came to visit me at work during a special event when the families were there visiting. My coworker knows of her condition and the symptoms. But to make sure she felt welcome I warned him ahead of time not to tease her. Then as she and her sister were arriving he hands her this kids (very small) Dora the Explorer chair and says, 'here Ali have a seat'. She is 15 and a big girl. Way too big for a childs chair. She looked at him confused and embarrassed and he persisted. She spent the rest of the day silent and confused and asked to leave prior to the main event.
I am beyond upset! I spoke to him about it in private and expressed my anger. He offered no apology and only excuses for what he did. I am not happy with that and have written a formal complaint to the manager asking for a written apology from the coworker and some assurance that it would not happen again.
I have been with this company for 8 years and this is the first time I have complained about anything. I have maintained the image of the type who does not rock the boat. But I feel that at this time the boat should be rocked. There were many people present when he embarrassed her.
I am wondering how others would respond to this sort of situation. I am at wits end with this coworker. His teasing is relentless and has gone over the line. I dread coming to work with him and am angry and stressed all the time. I tried to protect her from this sort of thing by warning him but now I feel like I failed at doing that.