dd begged me to homeschool

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 9:56am

dd begged me to homeschool her this morning. It about broke my heart.

We met with the principal, classroom teacher, & sped teacher last friday. They agreed to pecs, lunch in classroom, removal from gen ed when shut down to resource room for calming activities, no punishment for not participation, education on anxiety/SM for all staff, & friendship group/social skills. We asked for play therapy which they said get back to us on after they spoke to the psychologist & guidence counselor. I'm still waiting to hear about that.

I don't think things have been much better this week at school. At home she is communicating better with us and we aren't seeing any increased tantrums but she is scared all the time. She won't be alone anywhere in the house. She won't go to sleep alone. She wakes up everynight and gets in our bed. She has trouble falling back to sleep and is terrified someone is in the house. She keeps asking if the doors are locked. She hasn't been like this since she was 3 yrs old. I'm so concerned. I'm ready to try meds. I'm going to look for a new doctor and ask again. The last dr. I asked treated me like I was a horrible parent for considering it.

So please share with me what you are using if your child is on anti-anxiety meds and what dose. Thanks

Samantha

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 11:04am

Oh samantha,

BIG HUGS!!!!! to you. This is so hard. I understand that.

The locking doors thing kind of sounds like an OCD type of anxiety maybe a little. I know Luvox works well for that. I have to say Luvox worked well for Cait. I only took her off because she had been on for years and at the time I didn't think she needed it anymore. I don't like doing them either but they were a great help at the time.

Luvox also helped Mike for a year, but then for some reason things began to switch. I guess that can happen with some kids, particularly spectrumish kids. The psychiatrist explained it in how it works with the seratonin in the brain. I can try to explain more if you like.

Basically I think you are at a critical phase and meds may be a good idea. Keep up with the other as well and as she grows older and gains more coping skills as well as a more regulated body you will then be able to try and cut back.

Good luck and Hugs to you both.

Renee

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 11:26am

((((((((((Samantha)))))))))

Good luck in finding a MD who's more responsive to your concerns. I'm really sorry your family is going through this.

Amy

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 12:55pm

Oh Samantha...


I'm so sorry. It is so heartbreaking when they beg you for stuff you just can't give. What a big burden!

-Paula

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 1:18pm

Poor girl. Hugs to you Samantha. That must be awful, feeling so much of anxiety. Sravan also has a lot of anxiety. I did a little research for my friend before she went on meds. She could not stay home alone, couldn't do anything. So the research said that the meds help to reconnect the circuit (nervous system) that seems to be temporarily out of circuit. So being on meds for few years can teach it to be connected the way it supposed to for that person. She has been on meds for 1 1/2 yrs and we have started the self confident person in her again.
If Sravan's anxiety becomes too much, I am thinking of going down this path. Right now it is wait and see.

That is probably why Renee took Cait off of meds after sometime, is that true?

take care and hope you find the right med and right doc for her.

Goodluck,
Anandhi

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 4:40pm

Liam still has some quirks in that area, mainly lots of talk about toys and various other objects "protecting" him.

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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 7:21pm

How old is your dd? My son is having the exact same separation anxiety issues at home. He's almost 8 yrs old now. He hasn't been this way in a long time. He won't be in the room by himself, etc.....

He has just finished a full re-evaluation by the school. The whole evaluation process has set him off. I'm convinced of it.

I'm not going to try meds. though. My son is very sensitive to medicines...even OTC stuff or allergy meds.