Behavior is communication
Every child is unique in his/her needs
Andrea, mom to
Graham Miles Anson
Don't forget that a special needs kid is still a kid.
I would say, listen to parents, they are your partners, not your adversaries. The worst time I have had with special ed teachers are the ones who have too much theory under their belt and not enough caring, listening and practical experience: the worse one I had read a bit too much Kubler Ross and spent a lot of time trying to counsel me to overcome my (non-existant) 'grief' at the 'loss' of my 'normal' child, and not enough time actually trying to find concrete and practical ways to help my child cope in the classroom.
Each child is unique and each special needs child is unique: special ed teachers are experts at education, and a range of issues, theories and approaches, parents are the experts at their child (and sometimes also the expert at their child's particular diagnosis or set of challenges too): if we can find a way to use BOTH those kinds of 'expertise' properly, and if both sides appreciate and value the other, then the outcome for our kids is bound to be better. LISTEN to us, not because we are trying to make your lives difficult, but because we can help you do your job better.
Hope that makes sense!
Kirsty, mum to Euan (11, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT)
"My definition of housework is to sweep the room with a glance"
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This is interesting.
My big thing would be to keep an open mind, carefully analyse and don't jump to conclusions.
For example it is easy to conclude that a "hyperactive" kid has ADHD, however what appears to be "hyperactivity" can easily be related to sensory issues and should be treated differently.
It is easy to conclude that a child's behavioral issues are due to "bad parenting". However if the parent has another child(ren), who is "well behaved" there my be something else going on.
It is easy to conclude that a child who appears to look at you, and then follows class directions has understood you. However, some kids are great at figuring out context and routine, and may not actually HAVE those language skills.
I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea.
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my son did not have special ed teachers.
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