I totally agree Paula. On the one hand I really love to look back and think "LOOK HOW FAR THEY HAVE COME!" on the other hand I wonder about that mom of the 24 yo and I don't want to become that. When does it become unhealthy to keep focusing on the negatives and injustices of our children's past.
I really don't want to stick on the negatives. I don't want to give myself an ulcer fussing over the injustices. I really don't see any reason why on earth they will need their preschool and early elementary reports now that they are in high school.
That said, I can't quite bring myself to destroy them just yet..... because I know I am the sole holder of that piece of the past and it was a huge part of my past.
However, if you all bring the wine I will provide the lighter and have that bonfire.
>> After thinking about it, I was wondering if I had the urge to set them free or maybe I was doing a little projection to set me free as wel <<
Funny, I was thinking this as I read your post.
I never want to be like that mother of the 24yo, but the question of these papers is a good one. I figure after they graduate college, I'll do something with it. I'm not sure what. It could be a bonfire, or a giant collage or a pome made from excerpts.
Because really, why are they bad? I look back on some of this stuff and I think "my! It's amazing how *far* they have come!"
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Bonfire on the beach to burn old paperwork with alcohol?
HEY! I've been there....couldn't quite burn them but I stuck all the old stuff in a file cabinet in the playroom where I never would really touch it.
But REALLY what do we keep all of it for? And how long do we keep it? I mean ALL of it. Do I really need to be reminded how delayed Cait was 13 years ago? If they messed up on an IEP when she was 5 would it really help me now to get "compensatory services" at 16?
And BEST of all......most things from our kids childhood we keep to hand down to our children. Are my kids REALLY going to want to be given reports that say just how bad their childhood was?
So yeah, I've considered the great burn myself. I say yuo come to So. Cal. We take it ALL to the beach with a few bottles of wine and have a great BIG bonfire.