Depressing obessions?

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 12:43am

Okay as you guys know, Victor is 10 and just this year been diagnosed with Asperger's. Well, Thursday was a doosy of a day for us. First of all, I've had the flu for 3 days now so Mom is not the most patient person. Well, we're in the car on the way to go to the Spirit Store so we can buy a Yu-Gi-Oh costume. ( It was either this, or Victor was going trick or treating as himself.) As we get off the highway on to an access road, we see a couple of bums on the side of the road holding a sign that says "Need to get out of here badly". Well, I've told the kids not to draw the bums attention before in the past because there is literally one on every corner of the access road and cross roads. ( El Paso is littered with them) Now, don't get me wrong, we bake cookies for these people every Christmas and occassionally will go buy $20 worth of McDonalds burgers and give one to every one we see. However, this particular day, Victor says "Well, if you want out of here so bad, stand up, push that button, wait for the walk sign, and start walking." I was floored and without thinking that this is just one of the quirks that goes along with Asperger's, I fussed at him about it. Well this started him crying and got him really quiet. After a minute or two, I realized what I had done and apologized for yelling. He tells me he forgives me, but then proceeds to tell me every wrong that every one else in his life had ever done to him. He even told me "remember when I was calling "Mommy" and Dad came and shut the door? That made me so sad." This was something that happened when he was 3 because we were trying to break him of the pacifier. By the time this was over, I was depressed. I have since learned that these episodes come close to time for him to need his Lexapro again but I was wondering if these fits of remembering sad things are a constant to look out for. He has had them before but it's usually been one thing that he's harped on, and it was something recent like a kid told him he was weird at school that day.

Okay thanks for letting me vent this out. I worries me that he's hitting the puberty years and is already prone to depression and I just needed someone who might understand where this is coming from. Thanks in advance.

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:55pm

Alexis,


I wonder it it's the time of year, or what?

-Paula

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 8:27pm

We're in this boat too...only for Claire, it isn't about death. It's these sudden outbursts of, "I have ZERO friends. My feelings are hurt very bad." Literally happens out of the blue. And the truth is, she has loads of "friends"- every kid in the school adores Claire and wants to be her friend. (Mainly because she's so stinkin' cute and they all want to help the the "cute, funny autistic kid".)

She's still unreasonably afraid of any type of vaccuum. She goes hysterical just looking at one. It's so bad now that if she even sees us "setting up" the house to use the sweeper, she goes crazy. It's as if she truly believes the thing is going to suck her up. I know, I know...spectrum kids have problems understanding "reason" but this one gets old, fast. The older she gets, the worse the outbursts get.

We're heading to the doc. It's time to try meds.

Amy

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 10:01pm

My son could dwell on the negatives too if I'd let him.

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 10:36pm

Thank you all for your support in this. It's so frustrating sometimes. I think I will mention to Victor about his "happy heart" and see if that can't help me feel better. Bless his heart, but even at 10, he swears he has one heart for everyone in his life and it hurts twice as bad when people hurt his feelings because he has several hearts breaking at once. Maybe if we can focus on what the happy heart is telling him, we can avoid some of the severity of these outbursts. Thanks guys It's nice to know I'm not alone. Oh and BTW we find out if Victor and his sister pass their GT tests tomorrow which will get Victor away from the teacher who seems to think there is nothing wrong with him and into a place where he can get some help.

Wish us luck and Thanks again.

Alexis

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:59am

Sry, typo.. I meant I hope the happy heart helps him feel better.. :) Of course him feeling better helps me feel better also.

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 3:30pm
My son has more obsessions when he's having problems at school. He's not in an appropriate placement. I'm trying to fix that through the IEP process. If I can't get him in a setting where he can function, then I'll have to move heaven and earth to homeschool him. Over the summer, I thought he had gotten "better". He was, but the problems ramped up as soon as school started.
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 5:11pm

Just an update:


I saw the ped, today for Siobhan, and she agreed that Peter's thing yesterday

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 8:54pm

Victor says "Well, if you want out of here so bad, stand up, push that button, wait for the walk sign, and start walking." I was floored and without thinking that this is just one of the quirks that goes along with Asperger's, I fussed at him about it.


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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:41pm

Victor's had panic attacks since he was about 6 and I fought for a long time to keep him off of medication for them. We tried a number of things before giving in and getting the Lexipro. It was wonderful however that he was able to go a whole day without crying, or that he could make it through a whole day at school without having a urine accident because he was afraid of what he would miss during class. The end definately justified the means in our case.

Alexis

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:54pm

Thank you. I was able to see that while an inappropriate comment to make, I have so far raised an honest young man who is capable of speaking his mind. :) if we could just learn to censure what comes out sometimes. Oh well, I'm sure that will come with age.