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| Wed, 01-03-2007 - 10:02am |
It's been the most difficult 2 weeks since I told DH I am pregnant with the 2nd child. His negative input/output is really killing me.
My DS is so sensetive to his remarks, DS shuts down when DH is around. If he cries in the night he wants NO part of his dad. He pushes his dad away.
Well this morning, what a great day, my sarcastic DH says to me "do you want me to fake me being happy about this whole thing?" He can't say the word baby, pregnancy, or anything related to me being pregnant. NOT ONCE has he aske how I feel or anything.
It is completely heartbreaking cause he was so attentive with our DS and now he given up on DS, me and the new baby.
I asked him to move out for awhile. I can't allow all this negative engergy into my life. I try, God as my witness, I try to make my life a good experience for what it's worth.
Sorry for my rant, I really have no one to talk to. Most of my friend's have no idea I'm pregnant cause this is not a good experience for me at the moment.
Nora

Sonya
yes DH is a bit of a contol freak. He ALWAYS needs to have stuff "planned".
He knew I was off the pill. So he should know it was a matter of time if I did become prego.
I feel bad for my DS cause all really has is me.
DS bad mouths him and his "not getting it". HELLO he has PDD!!!! Meanwhile, I am the one making appt. seeing doctors, talking to teachers.
From my point of view, he's doing great. I have seen so much growth since he was dx'ed back in April.
As for DH, I am so over him right now.
I do all the parenting alone anyhow. DH is always working for doing the weekend musican thing out of state. (Thank God for small miricales)
I really don't want to tell my best friend I'm pregnant cause she suffers from infertility and has spent alot of money the last 6 months trying to become prego and I think it would hurt her. That's just my thinking anyhow
Nora
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((((((Hugs))))) Nora. I'm sorry DH is being like this. How was your relationship before all this started? Did you guys have a heart to heart to find out his true feelings? That can be so hard with men though. DH and I had a similiar thing trying to conceive. I wanted a baby so bad and he wasn't ready. It would go on and on and we were getting older. I know he was scared, but nothing I said worked and we were at odds and dispondent; it was a very hard time. We went to counseling and that helps tremendously. It was especially good because DH initiated it. I hope your DH wants to work this out with you and seek some kind of help because the truth is, the baby is coming. Hugs to you during this difficult situation. It is especially hard because it is supposed to be a happy occassion. I feel for your son too.
Debbie
(((Hugs))) Nora, I'm sorry you and dh are going through that. You are a very nice friend to be sensitive to your friend's infertility. I hope you can find someone else IRL to confide in. Hugs to you ds too!
Molly
(((Nora)))
I didn't have the greatest pregnancy experience either as far as the "other parent" went.
(((((((Nora)))))))),
My heart is just breaking for you right now.
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Nora, I'm so sorry to hear your going through this. I discovered I was pregnant last January. My AS son is 8, money's tight, I'm 40 and we have no space. I thought I was going to lose my mind! All kinds of desperate thoughts crossed my mind and I felt so guilty for even having them. My DH's response was "I'm too old to have a baby".
Unfornately all this came about when my brother was back in ICU for the 3rd time in less then a year and again, not expected to live. Then there was my mother who is pretty disabled and sick herself and no other family. And we're homeschooling so I had to drag my poor kiddo through all this.
When I was 12 weeks I went to have some "high risk" test since I'm a dinosaur and during
the sonogram I discovered our baby was dead. I was trying to get use to this little being in our lives and it was gone. The whole thing was pretty exhausting.
Please try to be gentle with yourself and care of yourself as best as you can. This is such a major change in your life, your home, your mind and your body. You need all the support you can get but I'm sure your DH is overwhelmed with his own stuff right now.
I hope that maybe once he has had some time he'll be more available to you. If not, God will provide what you need. Monica