Disadvantages of a bigger house.....

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Disadvantages of a bigger house.....
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 6:23pm

One thing I've been noticing lately, is that Nathan is never around!! I have to "seek" him out. On the otherhand, Tyler will yell across the house to find me. If he wants something, or just has something to tell me.....he finds me. But not Nathan. He doesn't seem to need me, unless something goes wrong. Then he screams!!!

I'm going to have to start "seeking" him out more. Interacting in a small house is easy, because he's always around. But things are a bit different now. Of course, when no one else is in the house.....and it's just the two of us....he never leaves my side. But if Tyler or his dad is here, you just don't hear much from him.

And when he is in the same room with me, he gets what he wants, and then off he goes. Maybe he's just getting more independent. I guess that's a good thing! He just acts so different from Tyler. Ty is all over me....can't seem to get enough affection and can't seem to stop talking!!! I've so busy trying to get everything in order around here, I'm starting to notice that I'm not getting as much time with Nathan. And he doesn't even seem to mind!!!!! I try to have "moments" with him between unpacking.....but he just wants to GO!!!!

I don't know, guess I'm just trying to get used to this big house. Guess everyone is!! LOL Just noticing how different it is being here.

Michelle

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Registered: 12-24-2004
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 9:30am

Michelle,

I know what you mean. We have lived in different sized places over the years, and when we were in our biggest house, Tim or I would talk to each other and assume the other person heard us. It turned out we were having conversations with ourselves at the time;)

Cassian is becoming more independent too, like Nathan, and I also find that a bit alarming. I have trained him to answer my call, however, which is something you might do with Nathan. I played this repetitive game with Cassian for a while where I would sing a song, "Where oh where or where is Cassian." Then, I replaced the song with calling his name. We would sort of play hide and seek and use the song to summon the other person out. Cassian really liked the ritualized part of the game, so he learned to answer or reveal himself when I called. It really helped me feel more at ease in a bigger place. We also play a "I'm gonna' get you" sort of game that gets Cassian giggling no matter what he is doing, and that is a good way to find him too.

I'm not sure I like the new independence that Cassian has, because it is reducing the amount of interaction we have. I think part of the change is also that I am pregnant and have less energy for play. A while ago, I posted that I was worried Cassian was getting more autistic. It's just hard to see him get back into books in such a big way when we made huge progress over the last 2 yrs.

Suzi