Discipline for a 4 year old?
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| Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:25pm |
My 4 year old has me at the end of my rope. When I ask him to do something, (i.e. get dressed, put a book away, stop grabbing the dog) he just doesn't comply. I have physically go over to him and direct him to do the task (or stop grabbing the dog). Sometimes he takes off, and sometimes making him do something really sets him off, where I'll need to carry him up a flight of stairs to get dressed (not easy, given that he weighs like 45lbs. Even if I give him consequences, (i.e. if you don't do what I've asked, we're not going to the toy store, or he has the sit on the naughty bench, etc.) it doesn't affect his behavior. As for grabbing the dog, he'll keep grabbing her. When I ask him why, even though I told him not to, he replies "but I like to!".
Another tough situation I need help with - his interaction with peers on play dates. He doesn't have many "friends" as he tends to grab most of his peers and tries to wrestle with them, etc. We're always telling him to keep his hands to himself, etc. but the behavior has continued. Has anyone else run into this situation? I hate to send the friend home, as I feel like I'm punishing the friend and creating an awkward situation for both the child and his mother. If I put him on the naughty bench during the play date, he cries, which again, makes things really uncomfortable for the child on the play date.
Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice out there?

Hello and welcome.
Reading your post, two things scream at me: 123 magic (a book) and sensory issues.
Have you had you DS evaluated by an Occupational Therapist for sensory issues?
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I believe he has been. He's receiving special services from the town (pre-school) and occupational therapy is on his list of areas, although I don't recall anything about sensory issues being raised. Can you please elaborate? (I'm not familiar with sensory issues.)
I will visit our local bookstore for the 123 magic - I hadn't heard of it before...
Thank you.