distressed over school starting again

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Registered: 06-30-2003
distressed over school starting again
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 12:59pm

DS starts the second grade in September. I dread it so much. He barely made it through the first grade. I had tons of IEP meetings. There was a behavior plan. I took him to doctors (none of them helped). I wish I could homeschool him, but there's no way that can happen since I'm a working single mom.

I just dread the notes home from school saying he had a "bad" day no matter what they tried to do with him. There will be more IEP meetings. The school will recommend I take him to another doctor. I'll take him to another doctor and the doctor will say, "have the school re-evaluate him". It's like a Twilight Zone episode.

I see other people happily getting ready for their kids to go back to school and I don't feel that way at all. I just feel a huge amount of distress over it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 4:59pm

hopefully this year is better with a new teacher. If you have a good teacher it can make a world of difference. Even when my kids are going through a rough patch, if I have a teacher that I feel like I am working with as a team it really makes things go smoother for me and I know we will get somewhere soon with the kid. When it isn't a team thing then it is stressful.

I am having that feeling already going back for Cait. I am already tired of the twilight zone battle mode. It is exhausting and I am not looking forward to another year of it. I hope it is better but I highly doubt it. But one step at a time.

If this year starts out rough for you, do you have any alternatives? It sounds like it is the school overall. Is there another school he can go to (charter, etc). You may even want to contact the district office over the schools head and get them involved. usually there are district reps that can go to IEP meetings too and that might help alot.

Renee

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 8:58pm
The teachers are good. It's the administrators that are the problem. I think the Asst. Principal, in particular, is just a big jerk. We are working towards having my son moved to the Asperger's classroom, but the IEP process is a slow one. I have a child advocate lined up for the next round of IEP meetings. I know what needs to be done. It just wears me down.