Do any of you have the...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Do any of you have the...
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Sat, 07-01-2006 - 4:47pm

kids that always feel that they have to either be with you or know exactly where you are at all times?

My son does this and at times it really drives me nuts. I pray for bed time at night so that I can get in a hot tub and relax so get rid of the headaches that I tend to keep now..

 

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Registered: 06-03-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 9:41am
son must know where i am at all times. if i'm putting out trash, collecting mail,watering plants,in bathroom etc. if he can't see me he screams or will call my parents and tell them i've left and he doesn't know where i am. before i do any of these things i tell him what i am doing and make him repeat it. i invite him to help me water plants etc. sometimes he'll watch from step or porch, sometimes he'll help. it seems to be worse now that school is out/schedule has changed
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Registered: 01-19-2005
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 10:37am

Me too. I also think it seems worse with school out. Even when I tell him where I am going, like just going in another room for one minute, he either follows me or within in 5 seconds is calling for me wondering where I am. If I don't respond immediately, this escalates to screaming. You are right it does get old.

This also goes with another post down below about being overly affectionate. With Eric I don't think it is affection, per se, but he has a constant need for leaning against me, touching me, hanging on me. I think it is more the sensory input he requires. I wish it were affection, and maybe there is a little of that.

However, on some level I am glad he is connected to me now. There was a time when he couldn't have cared less where I was and I suppose all those hours of floortime play therapy are starting to pay off!

Katherine

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 11:03am

Well, yes and no. He has to know where I am but her really misses alot of what is going on around him if he is lost in his own world. He can be part of something like dropping his sister at a grandparents and never realizes she went until an hour after we got home. So I may leave for over an hour before he notices I am gone, but when he realizes he paces and questions until I get back. Same with when I am home, if he is anxious about something he has to be in the room with me, but there are times he is either engrossed in a video game or in Mikeworld and he won't notice where I am. As soon as he notices I am not around though he goes looking.

It used to be worse and he goes through phases where he is like a glue stick attachment no matter where I go. Those are times when he is stressed or anxious. Usually when there is some sort of change going on.

Renee

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:41pm
son is not overly affectionate but "touches" me constantly. he walks into me, bumps me,leans on me pushing me down,comes into my bed at night and puts a leg or arm onto me. he used to ask me to hold him during the night. as for affection when he gives me a
good night kiss his lips touch my cheek briefly. son can be involved in ipod, computer or video game and will scream for me.perhaps he is frightened that i have disappeared.