Do your kids remember meltdowns?

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Do your kids remember meltdowns?
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 3:41pm

I got an email from Weston's resource teacher. He had another melt down today. Apparently, the science teacher had given him a whole sheaf of papers the 2nd day of class (3 wks ago) and he hadn't returned 2 of them w/ signatures back into her. The resource teacher thought she'd cleared it up last week but evidently we were still missing one. So, teacher demands Weston give her the paper or explain why he hasn't turned it in== MELTDOWN. So she gave him a detention. Then she sent him to guidance. This is the one teacher that did NOT come to the "Weston" training and didn't get the info from the resource teacher or OT afterwards. *sigh*

We're trying to pin point exactly what's causing him to melt down at school so that we can work on these situations-- and he can't remember actually having the meltdown, he remembers demanding things he couldn't produce then he remembers being w/ Mrs. W. And Mrs. W got Mrs R. and she got him calmed down.

The resource teacher voided the detention-- and reminded the teacher that placing verbal demands on Weston won't work and will only cause him to shut down or melt down. OT and assistant principal were also informed of the situation. OT will meet w/ Weston soon to help him figure out what sensory things we can add to help w/ the melt downs-- but the teachers may have to have another training! (would help if this one had the 1st training!)

So do your kids remember the meltdown after it's happened?

Betsy

I just remembered a couple of weeks ago he came in from getting off the bus in the beginning of a meltdown and it continued for awhile. Finally he was able to tell me that he couldn't possibly ride the bus anymore, his books were too heavy and he didn't like where the driver let him off. A couple days later, when I told him that we'd made some accomidations so he wouldn't have to carry the books and they would change the stop-- he couldn't remember having a meltdown over that at all, and asked me why we were making the changes. He also didn't remember having a meltdown over the assembly. He remembers the problems, he knows he doesn't like those situations, but doesn't remember the actual meltdown.




Edited 9/20/2007 6:01 pm ET by betz67
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 5:27pm

I'm not sure how much Emma (5.5) remembers.

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 7:17pm

Sravan cannot remember his meltdown and associates with the most recent thing. I question the teacher and ask her to tell me the days events and I know Sravan's weeknessess. I am pretty sure it was caused by the teacher demanding him to do stuff. Such things will make Sravan meltdown pretty fast. Since it is not predictable part of his day.


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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 12:08am
No, typically they don't remember meltdowns. I once knew the reason for this, I had asked there psychologist and there was some old fancy smancy term but I don't remember it. Something to do with the neurological storm that is going on and also self preservation from what I recall but it is quite common.
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:13am

I remember one of the reason's I took my son to get a EEG was because he would never remember his rages the next day.

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:16am

AT nearly 15, Chris rarely melts down any more, but I remember from when he was younger that typically he could

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:29am

Hi Betsy,


We have asked Nick if he remembers being "mad" and he says yes, but he cant remember what he did during the meltdown, ie. throwing things, hitting, biting, punching.

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