doubting myself. Again!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
doubting myself. Again!
Tue, 10-21-2003 - 10:44pm
Hi everyone:),

I'm doubting myself again! We recently started having a in-home worker for my ds. She is someone we know from an early years centre that we go to all the time. He knows her and likes her. Anyway, he has never played with the kids at preschool or said hello or goodbye to the teachers ever! He doesn't interact during cirlcle time and usually just goes and plays by himself. So tonight was the second night she brought him out. She took him to a preschool play centre and she said he was interacting with the kids and playing in a sandbox that was filled with flour. He was playing in it and getting his hands dirty. He hates to get his hands dirty or sticky. He was singing and doing actions to the songs. I CAN'T believe it! I'm not saying that I don't believe her, I do. But how can he act like that with her and not anyone else! It just boggles my mind. I feel like she thinks I'm exaggerating or something. I am not! How can he be like that for her but not anyone else? Not that I don't want him to do all those things but how can he

just change like that. But when she dropped him off he wouldn't say goodbye to her or even talk to her or answer any questions she asked him. How can he just switch off like that? It's days like this that make me question myself. He has been diagnose with Asperger's by the way. Whew! I feel better now that I got that off of my chest! Maybe I can sleep now! Thanks for listening.


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1. The Stone.......after the throw.
2. The Word........after it's said.
3. The Occasion......after it's loss.
4. The Time.........after it's gone.
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Registered: 07-11-2003
Wed, 10-22-2003 - 3:36am

LOL, hey Susan, it sounds like your DS has a crush on her. I'm not joking either. Aspies tend to be a lot more outgoing and

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-22-2003 - 2:17pm
Good luck! I hope your son keeps doing so well! I do this self-doubt thing on a regular basis, too! My dd and I are doing a workbook about Asperger's, and one of the things it talks about is peaks and valleys - there are times and situations when everything is great, and you and everyone else wonders what the fuss is about. My dd (8 y.o., Asperger's) can sometimes seem so nt, people think we're nuts to have had her evaluated or to worry so much. At worst the things that we do to help will do no harm and would help most children, with or without Asperger's.