drama drama drama

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Registered: 12-19-2009
drama drama drama
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Tue, 04-13-2010 - 8:56am

Ok I've got some serious family drama going on.

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 9:56am

{{{Meg}}}

Don't be so hard on yourself. Dysfunctional would be you both still active alcoholics, you with an unstable, unmedicated mood disorder, and your kids running wild without any support. It sounds like you're in a surprisingly good place despite all potential pitfalls you are navigating.

The best advice I can give you is to make certain you keep your self-care up. Eat right, sleep enough, exercise, and take time for yourself. Do you have any emotional support while going through all this? A therapist, a friend, family, or spiritual guide? Are you taking advantage of AA? All of this can help.

It may help to know that the divorce rate for ASD families is high. About 8 in 10. That's considerably higher than the 50/50 for the general population.

You have a lot on your plate right now but it sounds like you're doing ok with it - or at least you're putting on a really good game face.

In the meantime, use the board as much as you need it. We're here for each other - that's what it's all about.

And remember - put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. Self-care is key.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Registered: 11-28-2006
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 5:12pm

Drea, I couldn't of said it better!

Meg, wow you do have alot on your plate but you also sound like your doing much better than your probably feeling right now. Thats okay. Sometimes we just have to start at the bottom and work our way up and I see you as going up, not down.

I'm so glad you feel comfortable enough to let it all out and ask for support. Just stick around and keep on doing what your doing. You might need the the help of a professional when it comes to explaining to the judge about your illness and your son's issue's etc, so you have even more support and will help you with this divorce.

Anyway {{{hugs to you}}} and I want to let you know how impressed I am with how your dealing with all of this stress. It's alot to handle and shoot, everyone on this earth is a bit dysfunctional. At least at times lol. I had a woman cuss me out today for taking a parking spot when there were 5 or 6 available in a row lol. HOw the hell could I tell which one she wanted? It's not like I took the only one lol. I thought wow lady, you must have a very angry life. Now that screams Dysfunctional lol. Or someone who needs an anger management program lol.

Lainie

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:08am
I totally agree with Lainie. The concept of a "functional" family is an urban myth. We are all dsyfunctional in different ways. You sound very brave and strong to me and your children will benefit from the obvious love and devotion you have for them. The truth is life is messy business and we all have faults and weaknesses. Keep fighting the good fight and be kind to yourself.
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Registered: 12-19-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:03am

Thank you Drea, Lainie and Rocket,


I do have lots and lots of support: friends, family, AA, my sponsor, my psychiatrist...