ds and school is driving me nuts!!

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Registered: 12-11-2007
ds and school is driving me nuts!!
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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 6:09pm

Hi there. I have formally introduced myself before, but haven't been back to this board since the chances to ivillage.

My ds is dx with Aspergers and ADHD. He is 11 yrs. old and in 5th grade. Since first grade we have not had any real problem with ds. He had an IEP, had behavioral services and had pull out services. In 2nd grade the pull out sevices ended, he was doing so much better. The in 3rd grade he moved to a different school (k-2 school, then moved to a 3-5 school). Things were still pretty good...then 4th grade came and they opened a new school closer to us..Now, we have had many problems with this school..the teacher in 4th grade told the class about our ds diagnoses without us knowing, we found out 4 months later, he had dealt with a harrassment and bullying. And I have been the first defending my ds (even though I know he is not perfect) but it got to

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 12:32pm
I'm not sure what advice I have for you, but I have been there with the stresses of school. I actually pulled my son out of school for 2 years. He's back now at a different school and doing remarkably in the classroom with occasional struggles at recess and PE. My son doesn't qualify for and IEP academically, speech, or anything, but he is getting an IEP next month under "Autism Spectrum Disorder" for social things. They took my word for it about his Aspergers and never even checked with the doctor or did any testing like that themselves. Just thought I'd say hi and I'm sure you're not alone in your frustrations.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:57pm

I'm so sorry that you are going through this with the school.

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Registered: 12-11-2007
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 7:50pm

Thanks ladies.. I guess I am just exhausted from dealing with the school. I just don't know what they expect me to do.. They deny him an IEP for getting good grades, they tell me he will be switched to a 504, but then they dened him a 504 because he gets a's and b's..then whenever we bring up his dx, they tell us not to use it as a crutch..Sorry, it's not a crutch, it's his life... they have unrealistic goals for him to act and behave like everyone else, then turn around and tell me he shouldn't rely on his dx, but strive to be normal..

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 6:45am

It sounds like you have an apathetic teaching and administrative staff who actually help to perpetuate the problems.

We have similar issues that go on at our local middle school though I'm not yet sure how the staff there deals with it. My tentative decision is to allow son to attend the middle school next year and keep a close ear to the ground. If things don't go as well as he