There are 4 things you cannot recover. 1. The Stone.......after the throw. 2. The Word........after it's said. 3. The Occasion......after it's loss. 4. The Time.........after it's gone.
Thank you all for the replies. It helps to formulate my feelings into words. DH and I talked about some of this last night. I think he is still struggling with embarassment/guilt/etc about possibly having an ASD and being relieved that there are names and descriptions of what he struggles with (I told him about "executive dysfunction" last night and he said "Really?" lol).
. I hope you are feeling better. I'm going to share the story of my friend's family in the hope that it will help you a bit. Like you, she had an elder son with autism - much more severe a lower functioning than my eldest's Asperger's - and she had two younger kids who were lively, lovely but a complete handful. And she worked, and her DH (we suspect had undiagnosed AS as well) was *completely* crap with the kids - very loving, but really wrapped up in his work (he was an architect) and very forgetful and disorganised and hadn't a clue about any of the kid's schedules - we used to joke if he was in charge when we did joint trips out with our kids that one of us had better pack extra nappies/wipes/snacks because he would leave the house with the kids and absolutely nothing else.
And the worst thing in the world happened and my friend got aggressive ovarian cancer and died within 3 months of the diagnosis and we were all devastated - but particularly we were all terrified of how Eric, her DH, would cope.
And he did. The kids definately have a much more chaotic life than when Naomi was around, and they often are late with homework and laundry and hairbrushing
Wow. What a tragic story. But I get the point you are making and I thank you for it. At the end of the day, just plain loving our kids is more important than the "details". And you're right - I think my DH would move heaven and earth to make sure our kids were taken care of.
Hugs to you.
1. The Stone.......after the throw.
2. The Word........after it's said.
3. The Occasion......after it's loss.
4. The Time.........after it's gone.
Gee sounds like you and I both are having a crap day.
Hang in there sister...............((hugs))
Nora
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. I hope you are feeling better. I'm going to share the story of my friend's family in the hope that it will help you a bit. Like you, she had an elder son with autism - much more severe a lower functioning than my eldest's Asperger's - and she had two younger kids who were lively, lovely but a complete handful. And she worked, and her DH (we suspect had undiagnosed AS as well) was *completely* crap with the kids - very loving, but really wrapped up in his work (he was an architect) and very forgetful and disorganised and hadn't a clue about any of the kid's schedules - we used to joke if he was in charge when we did joint trips out with our kids that one of us had better pack extra nappies/wipes/snacks because he would leave the house with the kids and absolutely nothing else.
And the worst thing in the world happened and my friend got aggressive ovarian cancer and died within 3 months of the diagnosis and we were all devastated - but particularly we were all terrified of how Eric, her DH, would cope.
And he did. The kids definately have a much more chaotic life than when Naomi was around, and they often are late with homework and laundry and hairbrushing
I am with you on this one!
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