Feeling lost in the shuffle in ASD Land

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Feeling lost in the shuffle in ASD Land
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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 6:18pm

Well for starters I have been MIA from the board and chat for months. Alot has gone down since then so let me catch you all up to speed.


My in home aid (TSS) quit on me when I asked him to ease up on Adam w/table time. I was upstairs getting dressed to goto airport to pick up my aunt who I haven't seen in 4 yrs and I hear my son HOWLING/CRYING down stairs. I go down and ask what the problem is and my aide responds he is doing a math problem. I looked.........it was for 1st graders WTF he is only 4!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So momma bull over here is steaming and called off the rest of the session. As most of ya'll know I am need deep in the whole potty thing and Adam has had some set backs and I feel having the aide be easy on him while we turned a corner in this area would be helpful but he says "I can't do that, that's now how I teach"


Well I commanded Adam to get a yogart from frig and sit at the table while I had a "chat" with the TSS and I say to this twit, "now how come I get him to sit" and this a$$ replys (oh my this is a good one) "well he is deathly afraid of you!" OMG did the rocket go off in my irish hot head!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bascially threw him out and filed a complaint with the agency.........this was 3 wks ago.


My DH (he's on my sh*t list too right now) had his job postion at work terminated (company choice) and moved him to a position that pays alot less and has me all stressed out for that.


So in the new postion he starts later so last week I had him come to gymnastics to watch since he's never seen Adam in action. ****Side note he's in the mommy & me class since the aide qiut and I have to wait for a new one (starts next week). Adam HATES the warm up-----------nothing new and DH sees Adam freaking out and my jacka$$ DH LEAVES AND SITS IN THE FLIPPIN' CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Needless to say I let him HAVE IT on the way home.........how dare you be embarrassed, buddy I live embarresment daily..............jacka$$. So I'm PMS'ing all week and feeling really down, so Adam is working my last nerve to no end (he's sick and has been home for 3 days go figure) and my DH can't believe how much "WORK"

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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 7:05pm

Oh my it seems like there is always so much going on doesn't it?

                                

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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 7:34pm

I feel for you. It must be so aggravating, stressful, and exhausting. Sometimes, I wonder why some husbands are that way, mine including. My PDD-NOS DS's psychologist recommended some social intervention workbooks for us to use. So, my DH orders the book from Amazon and then throws the package at me when it arrives. I mean, WTF. He is not even interested in opening the book himself. I get frustrated and told him that I feel like I am the only one trying to implement the strategies that these professionals recommend, and I feel really depressed about the whole thing. Then this DH of mine tells me that I also have "mental illness" (ie, depression) and I need to see a professional about getting anti-depressant prescription. Yup, thanks for all your support, NOT!

-- Innie

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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 7:49pm

Seems like some of us have similar situations with our husbands. My dh (not so dear) told me not long ago that Dakota doesn't have autism. Came out of no where. He is in denial that we don't have that "perfect" son. I know he loves him but it is I who does everything for him while my dh sits on his you know what. I'm the one taking him to the doctors...the counselors...dealing with the school mainly (end up going to the IEP meetins alone), etc. Like when we were called to pick up our son when he was suspended he would have gone but would not have said nothing...so of course I made sure I was there to advocate for "our" son. The steps that I went out of my way to take has prevented my son (so far) not be suspended again. Seems like the fight for our son is a one sided deal. No matter what I won't give up on Dakota just like you won't be giving up on yours.

My children are #1 in my eyes and for me dh rates behind. They are my priority and what I can do for my son now will shape his future.

Sorry I meant to give some advice but turned it to myself. Guess just to let you know your not alone. Different family....same crap. :-)

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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 9:19pm

(((((Hugs To You Nora)))))


I won't even bother trying to throw advice your way...but I am very sorry you're going through this, and I think you're an awesome mom!

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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 11:44pm

(((Nora)))

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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:52am
((((((Nora))))) Just wanted to send out hugs!



 


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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 9:04am

Hey honey,


Hugs to you...You know me and where I am at, I so feel your pain.

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