Fun at the playground. Not.

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Fun at the playground. Not.
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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 1:35am

This is kind of OT, because mostly it's about my NT kindergartener.

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 2:13am

That must have been so hard and I can so relate with my own children. You want to protect your child, but you also want to respect the other childs feelings. At least thats what it sounds like to me.

Maybe you could say Nathan, for some reason he is feeling sad? Can you go ask him how he feels and work it out with him? ( I would go with him, so the child can't lie and make something up). For some reason this kid resents him, and it could possibly be you, but if you both go over and talk with the child together, and validate his feelings, the child, and the mother might feel better and more open to communicate?

At least the mother would see that your not trying to "blame him" which would put her in "Mother bear defense mode" which we all know we do lol.

Elaine

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:30am
I would like to also add that if you put it that way, he (your son) doesn't feel he has done anything wrong, (which it doesn't sound like he has) and your teaching him empathy for someone else and their feelings.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:07am

First of all, I haven't been here in awhile and the new signature lines are so great! Your boys are adorable!

Anyhoo......I know what you mean. We had to leave so many playgrounds (and other public places) when Sam was younger. I've realized with DS #2 that I don't remember any enjoyable outings or other memories of Sam as a toddler.....which is so sad!

I did the same thing though, stuck to him like glue. What is it with some NT kids, they really can be manipulative! I wouldn't even know what to do with that. Sam is no good at lying.

I always tried to go when I knew there'd be fewer kids. Or we'd plan on having a short outing and go get ice cream afterward so we could lure him away from the crowd before any difficulties. The more sucess he had, they easier it was the next time. But then when you throw a difficult personality in the mix it makes it even harder. I always envied the parents that could just sit on the bench and watch!

Chrystee

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 8:59pm

I am just gonna send a hug and say I hate playgrounds too. Unfortunately due to the extreme exercise and sensory need of the children in house, it has had to be a frequent occurance. As the get older it is now other activities like basketball or bike riding which are just as fun.

WHOOOPIIEEEE

Renee

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