Funny sorta

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Funny sorta
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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 10:52am

Before we knew that dh & kids had AS, I'd have frustrating conversations with (at?!) dh who would hear what I was saying, but wouldn't look at me nor acknowledge that he heard me. I'd explain over and over that if he doesn't acknowledge that I've said something, I have no way of knowing that he's heard me. He thought I was being obnoxious and that I should KNOW he heard me.

This morning I heard dh talking to ds. A minute later I heard ds yelling "I know, I know, you already said that." Dh said, "Well, if you don't acknowledge that I said something, how do I know that you heard?"

All of a sudden, dh stopped and started laughing. He'd gotten it!

Although it's sometimes frustrating having three AS in the home, at least they can better understand the points I try to make when they can see it in each other!

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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: hwife
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 11:21am

ROFL

Molly
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In reply to: hwife
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 11:41am

That's so funny and awesome at the same time!!


Can I ask a question?

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In reply to: hwife
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 12:57pm

hwife, I really had to smile at your post lol.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: hwife
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 4:05pm

Well, dh hasn't *officially* been dx. The kids were just SO much like him that we've always called them miniature replicas of dh. When we started realizing the kids probably had AS, and I'd give dh books to read about the kids, he'd come home saying he now understood himself better. And, when the kids were getting tested, the doctor finally turned to me and said, "you realize your dh is probably AS, too, don't you?" So, we KNOW he's AS, but he hasn't been tested.

When I heard Deborah Lipsky speak, she said she was only dx with autism in the past few years. The reason she got a dx was because she was intelligent, had various college degrees, but couldn't keep a job. She needed income and had gone to social services to help her get a job. They recommended she get a dx, so she could understand what was going on and why she couldn't keep a job. It made a world of difference to her understanding about herself!

As far as getting a dx for services, my kids don't need tons of services, either, but KNOWING what/who they are is REALLY valuable to us and to them. Even tho' we suspected their dx, it was so relieving to GET a dx that validated us and made it official that we weren't crazy, bad parents and we didn't have spoiled, bad kids. My dh hasn't felt the need to get an official dx, partly 'cus we already KNOW and partly 'cus it require time/effort which isn't his favorite thing to do!

I think having a dx is a great thing if you're able to do it. I wonder whether there are other depts of NIH that might be willing to work with you rather than the idiot intern you spoke with. (My 11yo NT ds is participating in a clinical trial at NIH. Holy Cow that place is HUGE!) If NIH can't help you, and if your insurance would cover it, you might pursue a dx with a neurologist.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: hwife
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 4:11pm
I'm not actually the only NT in the family. I have AS boy/girl and NT boy/girl. In some ways it makes it harder having a mixture 'cus the NTs are soooo impatient with the AS, but in other ways it's nice to be able to experience both sides.