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Furious!!!!!!!
| Thu, 06-01-2006 - 11:00pm |
Hi all, Sorry I haven't been around much lately but I'm up tp my eyes right now with moving stuff. I just had to come here to vent. DH has been seeing a therapist for a while now and had a session yesterday. When I asked how it went I was shocked to hear him say they had talked about Jake and his diagnosis because DH has never brought this issue up to his therapist before. I took this to mean that DH was finally ready to start coming to terms with it all. I was WRONG! He proceeded to tell me that his therapist suggested to him that because I am so worried about Jakes future and openly discuss it that it sounded a lot like munchousen bi proxy(spelled wrong I know). Is this guy for real?????Yeah sure this is all for some kind of attention. Give me a break! He said that because Jake was affectionate and intelligent he doubted the diagnosis and would bring him to another hospital to have him reevaluated by a hospital who had nothing monetary to gain!!! Shows how much he knows about Autism!!!! My DH continues to believe everything is honky dorey and quite frankly I am sick to death of giving him time to come to terms with it.Who gave me time to come to terms with it? I could probably have learned to deal with the fact I'm doing this on my own but listening to my DH describe his session makes me realize he will never come to terms with it and worse still thinks this is just something I have made up. Talk about Denial. I honestly can't see my marriage working if his attitude continues to stay the same.I've looked for books for dads with autistic children but couldn't find one that dealt with denial. Have any of you had similar experiences with your DH's?
Teresa
Teresa

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(((((HUGS))))) I could well believe a therapist suggesting something like that.
((((((Teresa))))))
I'm furious too!! That therapist should not be a therapist. Talk about unprofessional...there must be some way that you can file a complaint or otherwise let this person know that what they did was wrong.....and talk about practicing medicine without a license! Dx ASDs and Munchausen would be something an MD would do....or at least a PHd.....right? Ugh....it's bad enough to have to explain AS to family, strangers, school staff.....but then to have to defend the dx to your DH's therapist is ridiculous!!!
I am so sorry about DH. I have no advice except that parenting kids is a team effort and he needs to be part of the team!!! The same can be said for marriage; you're in it together. You sound like you've been pretty patient about him coming around to the dx and that can take alot of effort while you're also doing everything else you need to do. It's time that he put some effort into this dx as well.
Çhrystee......fittin' to open up her own little can o' whoop @ss!!!
I wrote before but just wanted to emphasize some more things:
Yes, your dh should be going to your son's doctors appointments. Dh never seems to believe what I say but as soon as some stranger doctor says the same thing he believes it! That actually hurts me, but the end result of getting him to understand is good. On the appointments that dh couldn't come to, our psych always said to have dh call or make an appointment if he has any questions.
If I were you, I would:
1) speak to whoever is supervising this therapist about the therapist being out of line about commmenting on your son's dx when he dosn't know your son. If the therapist doesn't have a "boss" then speak to the agency that licensed him. He should be investigated.
2) make an appointment when convienant with your dh for both of you to see your son's doctor or psych so that your dh can hear it from the dr and ask questions. How could you be deceiving yourself it the doctors have made the diagnosis?
Teresa, I've never dealt with a dh in all of this, but I have to say that therapist has got to be a JOKE!
and claims mom (me) is the only one who has problems with son. the school and even the dr have seen the behaviors. son went with xh for a week vacation and did not give medicine because he does not see need for it. i have sole custody. the xh refuses to admit anything would be wrong with his offspring. it could be that xh sees himself in his son.
Teresa
Teresa,
I am glad you and DH talked.
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