One of the things I mentioned in the Jordan's IEP meeting today was the analogy of 9/11 that I find to be really helpful in getting people to relate and understand how to deal with the literal, rigid, quick to melt features that are so extreme in Asperger Syndrome. I told them "Everything thing that goes wrong in Jordan's life, no matter how very minor it may seem to you, is as tragic for him as 9/11 was for us. Your job as his educators is that of the Office of Homeland Security, to prevent another tragedy in his life by helping him prepare for transitions, except changes easier, and teaching him the social skills he will need."
Unfortunately there a lot of well meaning but rather ignorant people you think you've got a spoiled kid on your hands. But if you think about how 9/11 made us feel when it happened, I think you can logically draw a parallel that the same feelings exist in our kid's as they view the world on a daily basis.
Just my two cents,