grrrr. Kyle is in big trouble.
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| Wed, 10-12-2005 - 7:39am |
Kyle and his sister are supposed to walk from school togeather to my dh's store after school on mondays. They walked home instead and called dh. Kyle said he twisted his ankle in PE that morning. He said the PE teacher said "I don't believe you". He said his ankle got worse as the day went on and by the end of school day he could barely walk. He said he fell down several times on the way home. His sister did say that was true. Naturally dh & I were upset about what the pe teacher said even though we didn't think Kyle's ankle was as bad as he was trying to make it seem. Kyle's had lots of trouble in PE in the past. The adaptive PE consultant is supposed to work with the PE teacher 4 times a yr. Dh emailed the Principal and told him about the situation. The Principal emailed back and said Kyle hasn't had PE since last week! We are so mad at Kyle for lying and embarrasing us. I'm pretty sure this is all because we told the kids they would have to follow a schedule when at daddy's shop. They were just fighting all the time and not getting their homework done and being zombies infront of the tv. Kyle's been having a fit over the schedule since sunday. Anyone have a suggestion as how to handle the lying? We usually take away tv/computer time for punishment.
thanks,
Samantha

Don't you just HATE that stuff! Cait went through a big lying thing last year and was terribly horrible at it, but when I would stick up for her with the school it is embarrassing as all get out.
I think that is why I took yesterdays email so personally. There have been times in the past where I have stuck up for Cait only to realize I had been duped.
But again we really have to try to get into thier heads and figure out why they had a certain behavior, etc. And also remember that regular punishment doesn't typically work with them. Even though that is what we feel we must do because that is what everyone tells us through out thier lives. If only you were more consistent, if only you spanked them, held them responsible, etc. The last one assumes they really comprehend what responsible means.
I definitely would give the consequence. Taking away computer/tv time is what we would do as well. But I would also consider doing a social story or some sort of lesson around the lying thing. We had to keep teaching Cait over and over how the consequence for lying was worse than the consequence for telling the truth. That if she lied we couldn't trust her, that sort of thing. Did it in the way of a social story. Took awhile and I think her personal therapist too, but eventually it clicked.
Renee