Had a Bad Day with DD

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Had a Bad Day with DD
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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:50pm

DD was acting strange today. She has habits that we believe are nervous habits. She has been having pain in vaginal area for a year that we believe to be stress related since many docs she seen and tests she had show no cause for them. We just mention we are going somewhere she stresses over and she feels she has to go pee. Today she was also picking at her nose a lot. She says she doesn't need a tissue, but she keeps picking at it. She has done this for several weeks. Before that, she kept smelling her fingers for no reason.

Well, today I tell her Daddy and I are going to take her to a party. It is for DH's co-worker who just graduated college and he invited us. He has three girls and thought it would be neat to see Stephanie and for the girls to play together. DH wasn't sure as he felt embarrassed by DD's holding her crouch all the time and picking her nose. He is worried that they will think she is weird and he gets embarassed easily as well. I told him she needs the socialization. So we get ready to go and in the van she keeps complaining that she has to pee and can't hold it. She starts crying so we stop to go pee, but she can't go. Then she tells me she is worried DH will get upset with her if she pees in the van. DH seems upset but I assure her that she won't pee; it just feels like it. But she is very nervous and keeps asking the same questions over and over again and says she has to pee again. DH goes for home and is upset as he doesn't know how to deal with it. On the way home she keeps asking why we aren't going, when are we going to get home, she has to pee again etc. She is driving us nuts, but we don't tell her that. She keeps saying she is very hungry and can't wait and she has to pee bad. We get home and she is comfortable so she just plays and doesn't ask to eat or goes to the bathroom. She likes other kids, I don't know why she was so stressed. But she seemed very relieved to get home and comfortable even though she asked a few times why we didn't go. (We told her we were running too late; which was true, we were almost an hour late for the party). We can't wait to see the psychiatrist on March 14 to get some answers.

What do you all do with your child's behaviours like this? Has anyone experienced this? Any advice would be appreciated.

One good note, DH told her he wouldn't be upset if she peed in the van or at home because he'd know it was an accident. I feel she just worries about all this for she never peed on the floor or in the van since she was a toddler.

But sometimes I get upset with DH for zoning out and having me alone deal with her. But he did get over it later.

Debbie

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Sun, 03-05-2006 - 12:00am
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 1:54pm

Thanks so much for your help, information and links. DH and I will seriously consider all of these. We both seemed to agree that she doesn't make things up so the pain must be real. Then all doctors we've seen keep saying that all the tests showed nothing so there can't be a physical problem. Urine doctor said it is impossible or highly impossible for a child to have IC. But we aren't sure. Doctors are wrong and anything is possible.

We will see the pyschiatrist soon and work from there. Don't worry, we won't give up.

There might be a good cause for her pain and then she fears actually peeing and then getting punished for it which could cause all the anxiety about it.

Thanks again for all your help. I'll let you know how it goes.

Debbie

Debbie, Mom to my "only" Stephanie