Had to pick up ds from school
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| Tue, 01-30-2007 - 5:59pm |
Another BAD day for Kyle at school. He stopped working in math class. When they prompted him to go back to work he started punching himself in the head. They took him out in the hall to do some heavy work and try to calm him. He kept throwing himself into the lockers. He wouldn't talk. They got the counselor and took him to that room where he threw his glasses and banged his head on the wall. The counselor restrained him so he wouldn't hurt himself :( They couldn't get him to say what was wrong he'd only grunt. When I got there he wouldn't even talk to me. He grabbed me and hugged me though and sobbed. God, this breaks my heart. The school really is trying as best they know how. I've talked to the OT on the phone every tuesday for the last 3 weeks. She's going to try adding back the Wilbarger Deep pressure protocol and maybe get him a therapy ball to sit on when he's in Math class, his hardest time of day. Yesterday he was trying to sit on the backrest of his chair and then laying across his desk.
After we got home and Kyle calmed down I talked to him. He says he's overwhelmed and can't keep up. The not keeping up is his perception because he is keeping up beautifully. I think what he means is he working with everything he has to keep up and he doesn't feel like he can do it anymore. He said he felt pressured and panicky and just lost it. He apologized to me. I asked him if they could have done anything differently. He said just not pressure him but I don't see them letting him just sit there and not work. I asked him if he wanted to go back to more of a resource room set up instead being fully mainstreamed. He says he does, the changing classed has gotten to be too much for him.
Its going to be hard for me to deal with if he's pulled from mainstream because just a month ago they were all raving about how great he was doing. Its hard to let go of that, you know.
Samantha

Samantha~~~~~~~(hugs)
My goodness the heart ache you must feel. I can't imagine what you had to do today just getting through to your son.
Don't give up the hope that your son won't go back to mainstream. He is doing great but he may be in over his head at the moment and can't cope at the level everyone has him on. He is just a little boy taking it one day at a time.
I give kudos for the whole mainstream thing, no matter if it's shortly or if he goes back in after a break.
I pray to have my son mainstreamed on day.
More hugs and glass of wine.
Nora
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Hugs to you Samantha. I too thought that kyle was handling the mainstream and changing classes well. THis is my biggest worry for Sravan. Sravan would do exactly the same that Kyle did. Maybe, he can go to a different table and do math so he is not seeing how others work. This kind of thing, puts tremendous pressure on them as they want to do the perfect thing. Then they look at their neighbhors and get caught in a loop thinking they are not good enough. I go thru this with Sravan.
take care,
Anandhi
(((((HUGS))))) for you both! poor kid. I'm sorry he's having such a rough time of it. Can he do the same work just in a 'safer' situtation like the resource room? I know it feels like a step back but maybe after a short time he'll be more able to return to the mainstream classroom.
I'm a bit apprehensive about middleschool for Weston. He does so well, but changing classes will add another sensory overload for him.
Betsy
(((HUGS)))))
I understand Samantha. That is just really hard. This is his first year of middle school right? Cait's first year was horrible but this year is much better. She finally has a routine and is used to it I think. (I hope). Hopefully this will be a temporary thing for Kyle.
We had to pull Mike out of mainstream math as well and it was a positive move overall. He was overwhelmed and he is doing much better with that change. I don't even think it was "math" as much as the time of day. It is after a very long time of language Arts and then a very loud recess. He just needs a break in a quiet place then to decompress and work 1:1.
I get to go in and hear today my weekly lecture from the gen. ed teacher on how Mike should be in the mainstream math because he was her highest student, yada yada yada. When she is lecturing me again on my decision I will be thinking of you and hoping that your decision works as well for Kyle and ours did for Mike.
Renee