Had words with MIL
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| Mon, 08-01-2005 - 1:24pm |
My MIL had offered to keep all three of my children last Friday night. Naturally I was like yeah, sure that would be great. She is a very regimented person, wakes at 6am to bed by 8:30pm. When it comes to Chase's AS she is very rigid(ironic) in her approach to how to treat him. She told me that he needs to go to church more so he can learn how to behave in church. We disagree completely on how to handle the whole thing.
Anyways, my kids stay up late during summer...I don't work outside the home so schedules are not a big deal during the summer. Well she calls me at 1am to come get my 3yo because he missed me. I'm thinking, can't ya just rock him or be a little creative, you're his gma for pete's sake. But I go and pick him up and they all three want to come home so I happily say okay and will get their things in the morning. We get to the car and have forgotten all of their "blankies" so back to the house I go and while I'm retrieving the blankets she tells me I need to get them on a schedule and that I'm being selfish. I kept my calm and told her they're schedule was fine and would stay that way and she said she wouldn't keep them then to which I responded "fine." There goes that one night a year of babysitting services, THANKS!
Just needed to vent. I know everyone has these types of difficulties. I'm just praying that I don't become spiteful(I have that tendency). My husband was very supportive of me and said that if she pushes this thing he will have to tell her flat out how he feels and where she ranks in regards to me on being a mom. Thanks for listening I am going to go take some deep breaths now. Vicky

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Thanks everyone for your kind replies. I think the thing that bothered me the most about what occured and the part I failed to mention in my original post is that she said I was being selfish. Yes maybe my kids stay up too late but in the grand scheme of things is it really that important when compared to how much time I spend teaching them about life, about how to fail and get back up again, about how much their mom and dad will always love them but that the world won't always go as easy on them. I gave up a very lucrative career to stay home with my kids and while some days are very difficult I know I am impacting their lives in a positive way. They know that when they wake up in the morning or the middle of the night I am there to soothe them and help them know that they are safe. I feel for mothers who can't do this for whatever reason.
So what if dinner isn't exactly at 5pm and all that stuff. Some of my favorite moments are dancing in the kitchen sock footed with my kids and singing at the tops of our voices or everyone crawling in my bed in the morning and having a morning breath contest. But don't call me selfish for allowing my kids to stay up a little too late in the summer....BIG DEAL! Okay, I need some calming breaths again. Thanks,Vicky
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