Hair cut time today....ugh
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Hair cut time today....ugh
| Fri, 09-02-2005 - 6:47pm |
So Bobby hasnt had a hair cut since the beginning of summer and with preschool startig next week...it was time.
| Fri, 09-02-2005 - 6:47pm |
Well, at least you are done for a while! I am sorry it was to hard.
I cannot imagine how poorly it would go if I had to go to a regular salon to have Ian's hair cut! Luckily they have a kids hair cutting place about 30 minutes from us. By the door is a huge playroom (to distract him from what is about to happen), and the chairs the kids sit in to have their hair cut are cars, or jeeps , or ponies, etc. And they have TVs in front of each chair with kids videos playing. I have a whole routine now.
1) I put a dumdum sucker in each of Ian's hands...so he is distracted and both hand are full....the better to keep from getting hit by him!
2) I make sure a video that he is interesting is on.
3) I make them use electric clippers so the whole process takes less than 5 minutes- trust me, we barely have a second over 4 minutes before the whole thing will blow up. And he does NOT like people touching him with their hands like they have to if they use sissors.
4) I tie the security belt around Ian so he cannot jump out.
5) They are not allowed to let Ian see the clippers. One woman decided to show Ian the buzzing clippers before she used them on him- OMG! That was a huge mistake and the longest 5 minutes of my life trying to hold him down as he screamed. Of course that was the first and last hair cut my DH ever went to with Ian...he is to scared to go watch the fiasco now no matter how much I tell him it is better now!!
I wonder if it is this tough on NT kids too. I get such a knot in my tummy when they call us back. I cannot believe I have to make a battle plan just to get Ian's hair cut!! LOL
And yes, I agree with you- the shorter the better!
No it isn't as bad for NT kids and it is a known thing for ASD kids but some are worse than others. And some it isn't a problem at all. Hair cuts never bothered Cait, but Mike, OMG. The problem for ASD kids is 1) communication. They just don't hear and comprehend the "it will be alright" and "you can get a ..." and 2) tactile defensiveness. Some kids are awfully sensitive about the head and they don't get why they have to get a hair cut. For some the touch is awful. For others the clippers and noise is awful and others it is the fear of the scissors.
Mike didn't get his first professional cut until he was 6 and that lasted one time. He just started in the last 6 months to tolerate hairdressers (he is 9). Prior to that it was ALL mom and it wasn't usually pretty. We tried kid salons, regular salons, hair dressers that seemed understanding. We tried preparing him, surprising him, bribing him. Nope, nada, nothing.
When he was 2-3 his hair cuts consisted of me holding him with my legs and bear hugging with one arm and using clippers with the other. Buzz cuts are king! It was the only way he would even come close to tolerating safely. Dear Hubby couldn't stand it so was no help. Mike was bugged by long hair so letting it grow wasn't an option either.
But he slowly got better over the years so by 4 holding him wasn't a consistent thing and by 5 I didn't have to anymore though I had to be very quick and the were still really tough. I am kind of at a loss now when he goes with dad to the salon to get his haircut. he will only go to the one but doesn't want me to do it anymore. He doesn't even want me to be the one to go with him anymore when at first there wasn't another option. His being so grown up on this one thing is a very weird feeling.
Renee
Nathan has been doing much better this past year with his haircuts. I take the boys in every 3wks...buzz cuts for both! Dh and I were both blessed with lots of thick hair that grows unbelievably fast!!
Not sure if going all the time, eventually helped Nathan get used to it faster though. He does have a magnetic calendar in his bedroom, so he knows when he has appts. Dentist, dr, haircuts, anything. I think that really helps him too. The "knowing in advance" thing, would help sometimes....but other times he would just obsess about it. He has gotten much better with not obsessing about his appts.
Now he obsesses on the "fun" things that are marked on his calendar! So we try not to let him know about "fun" things too far in advance. I wish we could do that about holidays too....but he's older now, and you can't keep that stuff away from him!!
Michelle
i hear ya, we just did our 2 auties on monday.
this summer, we took them outside and stripped down to the diaper. dh did the holding down while i buzzed like a wild woman. i am starting to get to the point with austin where i can leave the top longer and curly, while buzzing the rest. matt just gets buzzed to 1/4", the shorter the longer it lasts. i'm at the point now where i'd rather deal with the screaming at my own home rather then subjecting others to that and facing the looks.
valerie
BTDT (with both kids). Bought the t-shirt.
The thing which worked for us, when Peter got a little bigger, was a kids salon which had a GameCube. He will sit still as a stone, happily playing Super Mario sunshine, only moving if hair gets on his face or the stylist moves into his line of sight!
For DD, I do all the initial combing and parting (DD hates hair over her face), the stylist uses the "magic scissors" (the one which makes hair longer LOL) and then blow dries her ringlets straight after a trim, so it does actually look longer. DD also gets a flower pin and glitter hairspray, and she is happy.
-Paula
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