Hand motions...

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Hand motions...
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Sun, 08-31-2003 - 3:37pm
Ds has started this hand motion thing. I *think* it is becasue he is stressed about being homeschooled...not into the routine yet. He flicks his pointer fingers up and down over his ears then over his eyelids and then crosses his arms to flick his fingers down the sides of his face and sometimes again over his ears. It looks like some incredible secret hand shake but on his face:) If I crack it will he tell me what is bothering him?

The question is...do you stop the motion by reminding him he is doing it or do you let it go? I find it hard to watch as he is obviously upset about something. I did ask him about it and he says he is itchy. It is possible that he *is* itchy as we are still suffering from allergies but....this motion has started up in full swing for the last week. I guess I am wondering how you deal with this sort of thing. When ds is under a lot of stress, that is, strangers in the house or people are trying to get him to make eye contact, he restricts his vision by putting his hands into circles and puts them around his eyes. I wish I could know what is going on inside him so I can help him. Any help is appreciated.

Larissa

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Sun, 08-31-2003 - 5:29pm
Jade does something similar. But she's been doing it forever. She flaps her hands wildly at first then suddenly stops, touches each finger on both hands to her thumbs in sequence, flaps again, then stops and bends her wrists as far backwards as they will go. For her it's the first sign of overstimulation, fatigue, or a reaction to a break in schedule. it's also her way of telling people "HEY! That's not how my Mommy says it should be done!" It freaks my sister out to see her do that out of the blue. It's one thing to see her do it when you know she's tired, but it's a whole different thing when it's a sudden reaction, LOL.

I just let Jade do it. I try to teach her not to do it in public, but sometimes she has too. It helps her cope with things faster. I'm sure your DS will start to adjust, it just takes longer for Aspies, that's all. And believe it or not, you will get used to the Aspie Twitch (that's what we call it in my house, lol) eventually too. Once he starts to acclemate you can help him work on his coping skills and he won't doit as much.


Keep us updated on it. :)

Peace,

Candes

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Mon, 09-01-2003 - 10:09am
Funnily enough, Tim has stopped the full fledged hand motion and is just concentrating on the occasional flick of fingers over the face. I suppose I am shocked more than anything as he doesn't normally have an obvious twitch. It came out of the blue.

We'll see what happens over the next few days whether he was just having a quiet, peaceful moment yesterday(less twitching) or whether he is calming down over whatever was bothering him.

This aspie twitch etc is something I never paid much attention to. I was watching dh last night and lo and behold, he has his own twitch LOL.

Larissa

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Tue, 09-02-2003 - 5:47pm
Ya know, I never really paid attention to closely either. I guess it's because Jade's handflapping is so 'obtuse'. But Ayla does this little thing with her hands too. It's not the typical hand flapping. She curls her hands slightly so they look like cat paws then she rubs her forehead very briefly. It was pointed out to me by someone else that it looks like she does it purposely, but I know she actually doesn't, not really at least. I'm sure she thinks about it while she's doing it. But I think it's more along the lines of 'how' to do it rather than 'whether or not' to do it. Does that makes sense? It's not a huge thing and I rarely notice it anymore.

DGM does the typical smacking of self in the forehead A' La Rainman style. DH twitches his legs and taps his fingers on things in a strange way and Eva rubs her forehead with the back of her hand. With Eva it looks like she's trying to swipe her hair out of her eyes, but her bangs are too short to get into her eyes in the first place, LOL.

Weird to make such observations sometimes, LOL.

Peace,

Candes

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Tue, 09-02-2003 - 6:48pm
Yeah. Dh jiggles his leg when he is sitting. He also spins a pen between his fingers. Whenever we go to an appointment and the people are talking to us, he does this pen and leg thing. I find it incredibly distracting and usually end up coming out of these meetings with no idea what was said whereas dh knows word for word what was said:) I was told that dh's grandmother did the pen and leg thing, too. Gotta keep it in the family:)Ds hums to himself and chews lightly on his tongue. I know when he is either trying to relax himself or is relaxed. I noticed this tongued humming(only words I can descibe the sound:) a few years back when he would be in bed ready to sleep. It's funny how these little actions are easier to accept than the hand flapping. Little tics are less autistic looking?

I've noticed in myself that I sway alot. If I had a baby in my arms it would look perfectly normal:)

Larissa

Larissa