He is not happy about homeschooling

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He is not happy about homeschooling
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Sun, 07-04-2010 - 6:35pm
My 15 yr old is unhappy about homeschooling. But I don't see where we have a choice. I posted before about how nasty and horrible the local schools have been. Well, they have, at this point, agreed to a mediation. That is supposed to take place by Aug 1. My concern is though, that again, there will be false promises of those problems not continuing, and then as soon as the administrator is gone, it all happens again. It is not like I can avoid the administration when my son has an IEP and there are things that go on (like, communication needed between teachers and home, ARD meetings, long term assignments are supposed to be broken down, tutoring is supposed to happen, none of this had been happening under the circumstances of what went on last year).
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Sun, 07-04-2010 - 8:21pm

Is there any way that he could do public high school part-time. The way the schools work in Ontario (from what I've been told), my DS could take some classes at home through either online courses or correspondence courses, and I could register him for other classes at the school (my DS will take sciences, French, gym, and electives like art or woodshop, at the school). That way he gets some of the "high school experience", but not so much that it becomes overly frustrating.

My plan (after next year), since we live a close walk to the school, is to see if I can register my DS for the class before and the class after lunch, so that if he makes a friend and wants to stay and eat lunch with him/her he can, but if things aren't going well socially he can opt to go home for lunch. This part-time high school thing could work out for you and your DS as well. He could take some courses at school, and the ones where he needs more support and accommodations he takes from home. Win-win...if it's possible in your locale.

My DS has been homeschooled this past year due to social issues at the school (if he isn't being bullied by one or more kids, then he's being shunned by the other kids). He desperately wants to go back to public school next year (for grade 8). I think that it will be an epic disaster (based on how he gets along with the neighbourhood kids, who will be attending the same school as him), but I'm gonna let him. *Sigh* I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of us.

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 12:01am
They do not allow parttime enrollment in Texas. Our biggest problem was the bullying staff, not other kids. I think things get better in high school. Maybe you can convince your son to wait until high school. Another thing that helped was keeping DS out of PE. Really, once out of PE, the bullying cut down a lot.
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 12:29am

For my DS it was recess, lunch hour, and bus time (his last school was far enough away to warrant a school bus ride...the middle school he'll attend is only a 15-minute walk) that were the worst times for him. I'm having kittens just thinking about him being teased and bullied next year. He hates the bullying, is very socially awkward (and perseverates like crazy), yet craves the social interaction (in a way that I just don't...at all). He's also very immature for his age. He's just kind of a hot mess around kids his own age.

I don't think that I can put him off until high school. The plan is for him to attend in the fall (if he still wants to), and for my DH and I to arrange our schedules so that there is someone here every afternoon when he gets home. That way, if it's been a tough day, he's not alone and has some support (if he lets us be that for him). His mood was pretty grim the last year that he was in public school. I want to make sure that he has all the emotional support possible while he tries out public school again. I've made it clear that if public school isn't what he thought it would be that we can homeschool again (and immediately after he decides he wants to...no waiting period in Ontario).

That's really too bad that Texas won't allow part-time enrollment. What is it about public school that your DS misses (or thinks he's missing out on)? Or is it homeschooling itself that is the issue?

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 7:03am

I have used Pete and Pam Wright's website. They are special education experts and they are a great resource. It helped me re-write YDS's IEP to be much stronger and specific. If you google/bing Pete Wright and special education, it should come up.

ODS is on the Spectrum, but because he does well academically he does not qualify for an IEP or a 504, so we are SOL. We have had to go outside of school for social skill classes. I end up driving ODS to school and he takes the bus home to minimize some of the "downtime" exposure. His Middle school is fairly tight - because there are way to many kids and they are under construction - so they have assigned seats at lunch.




Edited 7/5/2010 7:05 am ET by tryingtoquit
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 12:00pm
I had to fight tooth and nail to get the IEP because my son did well academically. But once he had the IEP, his grades went down because of a couple teachers who did not want him as a student.