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| Fri, 12-08-2006 - 10:00pm |
hi, i hope someone here can help me
i work in an elementary school as a lunch aide for a 1st grade
in this class i work with a little boy with asperger's
he reminds me of my nephew who is grown and doing quite well but i wasn't around my nephew much when he was this age
This little one is very smart but social skills are very hard for him
that isn't the problem he is improving since his has been working with his teacher
it is just that sometimes he has what we call a melt down
anything can trigger it.....at least it looks that way
i am wondering if i am not noticing something or doing something to trigger these meltdowns
He is very slowly adapting to the rules which we try to keep very consistent
and simple
that helps
but........sometimes i wonder if it is that he is tired.....
anyway if someone can just give me some clues on how to help him have a more enjoyable lunch time
i work in an elementary school as a lunch aide for a 1st grade
in this class i work with a little boy with asperger's
he reminds me of my nephew who is grown and doing quite well but i wasn't around my nephew much when he was this age
This little one is very smart but social skills are very hard for him
that isn't the problem he is improving since his has been working with his teacher
it is just that sometimes he has what we call a melt down
anything can trigger it.....at least it looks that way
i am wondering if i am not noticing something or doing something to trigger these meltdowns
He is very slowly adapting to the rules which we try to keep very consistent
and simple
that helps
but........sometimes i wonder if it is that he is tired.....
anyway if someone can just give me some clues on how to help him have a more enjoyable lunch time

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I wanted to tell you that I have been going back to this article almost everyday since you suggested it.
It has been very helpful. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
I do want to tell you and please let everyone here know that I have great respect for all parents who are struggling with trying to figure out the best way to help their kid be successful. The best way I can describe it is like learning a foreign language with out a dictionary or teacher.
my little guy has been having a pretty good week so far.
Next week we have an in service for all the lunch aides and I am bringing the article in with me.
Hope all is well with you and yours.
Thanks again.
Mrs B
Hi,
I posted back in December about a little boy I work with in first grade at lunch time.
I wanted to tell you thank you again and update you on the progress he has made or maybe I should say I have made in changing my behavior.
I worked very hard to follow the advice of the parents on this site and it has been hard but worth it.
My little guy has learned to follow some rules because I finally recognized what rules he can follow. Plus he and I are really communicating. Making choices are very difficult for him and I discovered that for him the concept of centers in the classroom can be used in the lunch room and playground. He is on a schedule for just about everything now and he is excelling. All the other lunch staff have learned patience with him as well. As for noise he has adapted to it better.
When it gets too stressful for him he still wants to yell and what is amazing is I told him that the choice he is making now is "no yelling in the building" and that he is to come to me and tell me (he made friends with the cashier because she works with a computer) or the cashier what his problem is. He sometimes forgets because he is so frustrated but when reminded he does it and he has some one to help deal with it. I am so amazed!
I have even incorporated some of the things I do for him with the rest of the class, for instance I help him write a note to his mom when he wants her to send money in for a snack sale at school. The other students are doing the same thing now. Oh and I count all the pairs of eyes on me so that he will make eye contact and the rest of the class does it too! The whole class has become his family with the help of his teacher and your advice.
Anyway I just wanted to say thank you again and keep sharing it is a great help!
MrsBefore
Hi again!
I posted back in December and just wanted to let you to know that my little guy that I work with in first grade is making progress. Everything you and others posted has helped me. In fact my behavior has changed because of yours and all the suggestions on this site and therefore I believe he and I are communicating very well.
He was finally able to tell me that he can't make choices and I help him with that. He and I also write letters to his mom when he needs to ask her for something for lunch.
In fact the whole class is using many of the tools I incorporated for him such as I have to count all the pairs of eyes before we go somewhere, that was to get him to make more eye contact with me, now everyone does it :) Oh and one thing I noticed with the other students, they have learned that he needs different boundaries and it seems okay with them! I am amazed. He has even let people touch he somewhat!
What is funny though is now I worry about how he will do next year! I won't have him next year and it scares the crap out of me! So I guess I want to tell you that I think of all you parents and pray that all your kids do well and keep sharing your experiences they are what helped me.
Thanks again
MrsBefore
MrsBefore,
Thank you for the update and feedback. it is really great to have someone come back and let us know if our advice worked (or didn't!).
I missed this thread the first time, but you got some great input from other moms.
I am very glad we could help you and your students out.
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