Helpful Strategys

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Registered: 03-21-2003
Helpful Strategys
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 9:33pm
I had this on my last resource page somewhere.. I'm looking through my files and

finding different stuff and I'll post it here. Maybe we can put it on the

new resource page too :) Rebecca

There are many things you can do to help your child better understand the world and in doing so make everyone's lives a little easier. The ideas below are only suggestions which you may or may not find helpful.

Keep all your speech simple - to a level they understand.

Keep instructions simple ... for complicated jobs use lists or pictures.

Only give one instruction at a time if you can.

Try to get confirmation that they understand what you are talking about/or asking - don't rely on a stock yes or no answer..

Limit any choices to two or three items.

Limit their 'special interest' time to set amounts of time each day if you can.

Use turn taking activities as much as possible, not only in games but at home too.

Pre-warn them of any changes, and give warning prompts if you want them to finish a task... 'when you have finished your lunch we are going out to the post office' or "instead of staying at home we are going to visit Grandma tomorrow" etc

Try to build in some flexibility in their routine, if they learn early that things do change and often without warning - it can help.

Don't always expect them to 'act their age' they are usually immature and you should make some allowances for this.

Try to identify stress triggers - avoid them if possible -be ready to distract with some alternative 'come and see this...' etc.

Find a way of coping with behaviour problems - perhaps trying to ignore it if it's not too bad, hugging sometimes can help or try and distract them with something else. Promises and threats you make will have to be kept - so try not to make them too lightly.

Teach them some strategies for coping - telling people who are teasing perhaps to 'go away' or to breathe deeply and count to 20 if they feel the urge to cry in public or to help prevent them from losing their temper.

Begin early to teach the difference between private and public places and actions, so that they can develop ways of coping with more complex social rules later in life.

Let them know that you love them - wart's an' all' - and that you are proud of them. It can be very easy with a child who rarely speaks or who is so demanding in other ways not to tell them all the things you feel inside.

Remember, they are children just like the rest, they have their own personalities, abilities, likes and dislikes - they just need extra support, patience and understanding from everyone around them

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 5:31am
Been added to the new site on page "What You Can Do at Home" under heading "Interacting". :)