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| Thu, 07-27-2006 - 9:46pm |
I am so sorry that I haven't been here. way to much has been going on for me. I have fought my last battle with my 18 yr old dd. What she did 2 days ago affected D.J. and I will NOT have him upset by her and the crap she is pulling.
Tuesday I had to take my parents to the doctors. D.J. stayed home with his dad(my husband). He asked me if he could get on my computer and I figured no big deal. Well his sister logged into yahoo and he started talking to her. She was nice at first no big deal. I asked him not to tell her I was home because I didn't want anything to start and she starts. Well after I get home I was near my desk helping him spell a word and she goes so where is mom? D.j. asked me and I told him to tell her in town. He did and she then wanted to know where, he responded he didn't know. She told him he had to know because he lived here. OMG I lost it and I pounced. She accused my son of stealing my id or some such crap. Well my son doesn't play online much not his thing at all it's music and cars for him. He started crying and I was livid. When she realized it was me she was like hi ma. Hi ma my but omg I saw red then she started with her new family and all of this crap. Now I have heard this way to much so I told her about it and the boyfriend started wanting to beat my A$$.. I have since ended her talking to me or emails that I will respond to. I am not going to have my sone dragged into the middle of this. He has decided that when things are final and he goes to my brother and this is after both my husband and I die that April isn't getting anything.. Kids gotta love them. Now of course we are getting ready for school to start..That is Aug 9 and he still doesn't want to go to private school
Well that's what's been going on here...
Hugs to all
Tina

Tina! So sorry to hear you're DD's being such a putz!
I've had similar problems with my sisters behaving that way towards my teens. They start saying stuff to them and try to push them around. They think they're doing them a favor or something when all they're doing is sending them into hysterics. But they don't care, as long as they get to feel superior. And my sisters are in they're upper 30s!
I think you did the right thing. She has to grow up at some point and if she wants to act like your peer then you should treat her like one. As adults we don't treat each other's children that way when we have problems with each other. AND as adults, we don't have to associate on a personal level with people who we feel are being abusive and destructive in our private lives. Hopefully she'll get a clue and see what her behavior is doing. Until then keep a stiff upper lip and take a little 'sanity time' for yourself.
(((HUGS)))
~SG_1Niner