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Welcome to the board, and you don't need a diagnosis to hang out here. None of us are doctors and we can't diagnose, and obviously even if we could we couldn't do it over the internet based on a snapshot description. But there are lots of red flags there for an ASD - you describe my son to a t - and I am in favour of getting an accurate diagnosis, because knowing what you are dealing with is, in my experience, a hell of a lot easier than dealing with a vague mummy gut instinct that something is 'wrong' and watching your child really struggle with some things and not knowing how to help them.
I'm in Scotland, so our routes to diagnosis, health system, legal policies and supports are completely different to yours, so you are probably best getting advice on that from fellow Americans. We got referred to a paediatric psychiatrist via a paediatric mental health nurse and general practitioner following a referral by the school and ourselves, and it took about nine months of testing and different referrals until we got the diagnosis (we were ruling out a lot of things like ADHD, SID and whole host of other acronyms). For us, the biggest issue was the support he needed at school and in social situations, and the support *we* needed as parents to understand him and how to help him.
Kirsty, mum to Euan (11, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT)
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Hi and welcome!
It sounds like at the least your son has some sensory issues. It can take some time (and a few experts) to tease out whether it is SID alone or something on the autism spectrum. I would suggest talking to the pediatrician and seeing what kind of referrals you can get. A developmental pediatrician, dev psych, and an OT trained in sensory integration would be great resources (I'd suggest the OT regardless of whether there turns out to be HFA - there is a lot you can do to help a kid with sensory issues). Since your son is so functional in school, the school is unlikely to be much help.
My oldest has HFA, and my middle child has quite a few sensory issues but no autism. My middle child can do some things that look VERY autistic (like rock backwards banging into the couch for 30+ minutes at a time). But, she is socially aware, pretend plays, communicates well, understands gestures and can tell how someone's feeling by their body language - all something a kid with autism would find very difficult. Anyway, my point is that most kids with autism have sensory issues, but not all kids with sensory issues have autism.
Good luck! And ask away if you have questions - the ladies here are a great resource.
Thank you both so much for your input--I not only appreciate the advice, but also just having someone listen and understand where I am coming from!