homework

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:02am

This post is about 8yr old, third grade, dd (not AS but pretty darn close). Third grade is notorious for homework for some reason. Dd has to read independently for 20mins a night, practic rocket math, practice 14 spelling words, and finish what ever she hasn't gotten done at school which as typically been 2-3 math worksheets.

Hannah has always been horrible about doing homework. Thankfully up till now she hardly ever had any unless she missed school. Well school just started and she already has had 2 whopper of tantrums and flat out refused to do her work. She even scribbled all over one of her worksheets with crayons. We offer to help her but she wants us to flat out just do it for her which we won't. We honestly don't think the work is too hard but I emailed her teacher about it just in case. She looses her favorite stuffed animal for not doing her homework, a deal we made before school started. And dh took away her TV privelages for a day because of the big tantrum she threw last night. I won't be surprised if she refuses to go to school today because of this.

Any one got any pointers? Dh thought maybe if we change the time we have her do her homework. Last yr we were trying 4pm after snack and 1/2 hour break (usually watching TV). This yr we were trying after supper at my sister's suggestion. That time works well for her kids. I doubt the time will matter but I'm up for trying anything at this point. I wanted her to try the homework room at her school. Its only every other day but I thought that's everyother day I don't have to fight with her. But then ds told her it was basically detention so I think that idea might be shot now.

HELP! Thanks :)
Samantha

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In reply to: mamahh
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 6:27pm
Problems with homework? I'm still waiting for school to start! One more week of summer vacation.
Seriously, son whizzes through homework (when he remembers to bring it home and to do it). His problems are carelessness while doing homework then being able to get it to the teacher. Somewhere between our front hall and his class the homework vanishes from the backpack. No amount of folders, cleaning the backpack or even carrying homework in his hand helps.Son usually crashes for half an hour after school then does his homework. Last year I think he had more punishments and apologies than written school work. He does have lovely handwriting maybe all those punishments were good for something. (this was before the dx).
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In reply to: mamahh
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 8:52am

All I can say is, we're in this with you! All my kids-- NT and ASD alike hate homework and we have battles for a couple hours afterschool, thankfully there are 3 different buses w/ 3 different drop off times so I have time to start the kids independently and get them going (then run from one to another when they're losing it!). I have had the kids w/ IEPs have either less homework or more time to complete the assignments. My oldest has a black hole surrounding his backpack, homework just mysteriously disappears, and I KNOW he's done it it just never makes it to the teacher!

Betsy

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In reply to: mamahh
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 9:17am

Thanks to all of you!

Yesterday she didn't bring any math worksheets home. Yippee!! I changed their homework time to right after after school snack and break time with no TV. And I'm letting them do thier 20 mins of reading after supper if they choose to. This worked out well yesterday. There were no tantrums :) Hoping this continues to work out well.

Samantha

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In reply to: mamahh
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 9:21am

I'll join in the homework woes. It is the beginning of the year so the teachers don't know the kids yet and I want to give them the opportunity again to have regular homework. Plus I find it is a WHOLE lot harder to get it modified in middleschool than it was in elementary.

Last night we spent over 3 hours on Cait's homework and it still was not done. She gets home at 4:30 and with dinner and a couple small breaks it was nearly bed time by the time we quit. Mike's took about 2 hours because he just could NOT focus. So far we have had homework 3 nights and 2 of them have been H-E-double toothpicks. I was like you Betzy, running from one to the other thwarting meltdowns and helping.

I can't spend 3 hours every night with them on thier homework! I have my own homework, housework, dinner to make, etc. Plus I am not home every night. The only night Cait hasn't melted down or had trouble was Tuesday. I was at a PTA meeting and Dad didn't bother to check to make sure she was doing it or done like she said. I am the one that got the message she didn't finish or turn in her work.

I am really lucky in one regard. Thus far Emily is one of those that you don't even have to tell her to do it. This year I have had to but she will get into the routine soon enough. By last night all her homework for the week was complete and she was doing an educational game on the computer. It is amazing the difference. Dave usually is good about homework too but it is beginning 1st grade. I should say he was good last year. Already he is forgetting to complete part of the pages and starting to argue about doing it.

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