u are not the only one!!!!!! this past week or so ive been begging my husband to come home early because i feel ive exhausted all the possibilities.. so i can say i know how u feel!
We have all been where you are and you should know that it will get easier and you learn more and as your ds matures. One of the things I found VERY helpful when ds was young on weekends was other families with kids like mine close in age to ds ... ie. his first effective playdates, and the precursors to many of his current best friendships (ds is now 10 years old). We went to parks and swimming pools, we rented kids movies and let them watch together and eat popcorn, we all played together, parents and kids, learning together. And the support and friendship I found with these other mothers was GREAT, plus the structure throughout our weekends of the playdates helped me organize other activities even at home on a schedule. We still do this, spend lots of time with other families and now have a sort of extended family system with kids like ours and their siblings.
It does sound like you need some help, esp. with dh gone so much. You can't run yourself out dry like this, or you really will fall apart. I know, I've been there myself!!! Be extra careful to do those care-full things for yourself right now, like going to bed early, eating VERY healthy, cry lots whenever you need to, read a good book, take a long bubblebath, and find a sitter!!! Even for just an hour break.
Stay in touch. Write here as well, unload as often as you need or want, it does help. We'll pass the cyber- wine and chocolate!
Somehow, you just keep getting up and keep doing it. Somedays are great, some days suck but tomorrow is always a new day and we can start fresh.
I like the advice about hugging and kissing on the kids. Sometimes that is all I can do and it is the best medicine then you get up and keep doing it one little step at a time.
Soon all the little steps add up and things are going much better. you are at a very rough time in life right now and it will get better and they will grow up. Honest.
Sometimes it is a matter of keeping your head down and just putting one foot in front of the other. I don't mean taking things day-by-day. I mean second-by second.
No-one said this Autism stuff is easy. It really isn't. But you do adjust and things definitely get easier.
Gosh hon, you are not alone.
this past week or so ive been begging my husband to come home early because i feel ive exhausted all the possibilities.. so i can say i know how u feel!
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Dear Tonia,
We have all been where you are and you should know that it will get easier and you learn more and as your ds matures. One of the things I found VERY helpful when ds was young on weekends was other families with kids like mine close in age to ds ... ie. his first effective playdates, and the precursors to many of his current best friendships (ds is now 10 years old). We went to parks and swimming pools, we rented kids movies and let them watch together and eat popcorn, we all played together, parents and kids, learning together. And the support and friendship I found with these other mothers was GREAT, plus the structure throughout our weekends of the playdates helped me organize other activities even at home on a schedule. We still do this, spend lots of time with other families and now have a sort of extended family system with kids like ours and their siblings.
It does sound like you need some help, esp. with dh gone so much. You can't run yourself out dry like this, or you really will fall apart. I know, I've been there myself!!! Be extra careful to do those care-full things for yourself right now, like going to bed early, eating VERY healthy, cry lots whenever you need to, read a good book, take a long bubblebath, and find a sitter!!! Even for just an hour break.
Stay in touch. Write here as well, unload as often as you need or want, it does help. We'll pass the cyber- wine and chocolate!
yours,
Sara
I'm glad you are feeling
Here is the best advice I have ever received:
Somehow, you just keep getting up and keep doing it. Somedays are great, some days suck but tomorrow is always a new day and we can start fresh.
I like the advice about hugging and kissing on the kids. Sometimes that is all I can do and it is the best medicine then you get up and keep doing it one little step at a time.
Soon all the little steps add up and things are going much better. you are at a very rough time in life right now and it will get better and they will grow up. Honest.
Renee
Sometimes it is a matter of keeping your head down and just putting one foot in front of the other. I don't mean taking things day-by-day. I mean second-by second.
No-one said this Autism stuff is easy. It really isn't. But you do adjust and things definitely get easier.
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Oh Tonia-