How do you handle apathy in school

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Registered: 02-23-2004
How do you handle apathy in school
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 10:08am
We are in the midst of switching from Straterra to Adderall XR, also takes Abilify, and so I'm not sure if it's just part of the transition or what's going on. Matthew (10-4th Grade) has never been one to really care about school. He'd definitely be just as happy without it in his mind. He really struggles with math. But what is really concerning right now is that his grades have continued to slide and has gone from mostly Bs and a few Cs to Ds and a few Cs, and that he doesn't really seem to care about it. How do you handle this apathy. I can't make him care, so how do I motivate him to get things done and do a good job even though he doesn't see the need. He is still very immature for his age and so that seems to play a part in it too. For those of you who see a child psychologist rather than psychiatrist, who prescribes meds for you? Right now we are seeing a child pshychiatrist in combinaiton with a behavior specialist. I know that things are better, but it almost feels like we are going backwards at the time rather than forward. Any ideas?
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 10:23am
Thanks. It is good to know we aren't alone. We implemented his behavior card again, earlier in the year the teacher didn't think he needed it. Took a few days last week of getting back into it and having the teacher, us and resource manager all getting on the same page, but only had "extras" for homework, reading for his red dot books, studying his parts for a play they do, and practicing his recorder. So it was a good weekend. His meds seem to be working a bit better also. Day by day.
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Thu, 01-12-2012 - 3:11pm
We have a hard time keeping our son motivated also, he's on Vyvanse and in 8th grade. He just doesn't seem to care what grades he gets, and it's very frustrating when you know they can do better. We have to constantly work with him to keep organized and on track with all of his assignments. I think you just need to keep working with him, I wish I had a better answer for you. Just wanted to tell you that you aren't alone with this!

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Registered: 08-10-2011
Thu, 01-12-2012 - 1:05pm

Yes my son is doing better this year in 5th grade.

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Thu, 01-12-2012 - 9:50am
Thanks for your reply. It's always good to hear we aren't alone! I'm really hoping the next med change helps some of this. It's so hard to be patient when he just sits there doing nothing when it's time to do homework. We keep working at it, and thankfully the school is helpful. It's always hard to know how much to modify, how much is he really capable of at any given moment. When meds are working he does pretty well. So, questioning whether to modify until we get it leveled off. That's one issue we've had with the school--they've seen that he is capable so are hesitant to make modifications in assignments. It's a constant struggle it seems. So, does 5th grade seem easier for your son? He will have different teachers for each subject next year as well as being in a different building so will definitely be a year of change. But that's next year--one day a time! Thanks again.
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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 7:33pm

We have just been finding out what has been going on with my son.