How do you prove behaviours are part of disability? What services do your children receive exactly?

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How do you prove behaviours are part of disability? What services do your children receive exactly?
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 6:55pm

The title says it all. :)

How can I prove that my son's "outbursts" (, not wanting to come with adult, mean looks, etc, that only happen at unstructured times) are part of his disability?

Also is there a limit in the number of suspensions they can have in one year?

I don't want my 10 year old is so much trouble again for his disability but I know the principal doesn't know much at all about aspergers.

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Registered: 03-27-2003

My son has a medical dx of PDD-NOS and an educational classification of Autism.


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Registered: 01-25-2007

I agree with PP. Push the school to do an evaluation and make sure those doing the evaluation are truly qualified to do it. (Some schools will have an unqualified staff member do it). We couldn't get the school to test my son either and they aggressively tried to discourage us from getting our own done. When they heard we were having a private eval done they changed their minds in a big hurry. All of the behaviors you mention seem classic ASD. Keep in mind it is still a battle, even with supports in place. Things always seem to fall through the cracks and you really have to stay on top of it. You shouldn't need to constantly "prove"

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Registered: 10-03-2004

If his disability requires someone to be with him during unstructured time, by law they have to provide it and "no resources" is not an excuse they can use.

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Registered: 09-27-2007

My son is only in kindergarten, but we have been facing the same exact issue.

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Registered: 02-28-2008

In my case, Graham is his own best advocate.

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You'e gotten some good ideas and advice from OPs that are highly relevant for your educational/health system, and as I am operating in a different country I won't add to them. But I will say that in my experience the most helpful thing has been having autism specialists on board. In our case, this was a child psychologist who specialised in ASD, along with an ASD outreach worker. I could explain stuff til I was blue in the face and they'd look at me like I was a deranged overprotective parent who was trying to make excuses for my disruptive child. If the child psych or the ASD worker said the same stuff, oooh, everyone listened. And the fact that the child psych and ASD worker also listenened to, and respected, me and my experiences/knowledge, made the school sit up and listen to me better too. So push, push, push for a multidisciplinary evaluation and a team that includes specialists who know about ASD and who are involved with your son, whatever form that takes. It'll be a life saver for you.

The child psychologist, in particular, was a life saver for *me* as she worked with us intensively for a few months on eating and aggression issues and really opened my eyes up to Euan's world. I am a much better support and advocate for him now because I understand him better. So maybe out of school some family therapy might also help: if *you* know what is going on, and what works, and why, you can advocate for your son more effectively.

Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Asperger's Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT).

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